Hello, just wanted to chime in and wish you the best.
You probably feel like you've woken up in some sort of horrific parallel universe - I know that's how my brother felt when diagnosed. But you'll get through it.
Post often, because in my experience, no issue is either too big or too small for the forum to offer information and support.


Brother 49yo DX 22/6/11 Tonsil SCC HPV+ Stage IV T4N1(?)M0. Carbo/docetaxel (Taxotere)19/7, 11/8 (with E-tux), 1/9; E-tux 11/8, 25/8, 15/9, 30/9, 14/10, 28/10; IMRT X 35 (70gy tumour;63gy nodes;56gy gen area) 19/9-4/11/11. Clear PET scan 1/2/12. 1 and 2 year post treatment checks good.