Thanks for the replies guys and gals.

I guess my problem is 1) I am angry that the PEG tube wasn't done at the beginning of treatment. I knew this was coming - now that it's here I'm mad. 2)It seems incongruous to have this placed AFTER treatment. But that's my problem-more than one of you has had this done in the same time frame - I need to get my thinking "forward" not backward" and 3) My father died last year with a feeding tube in. I really think that my mother is associating the tube with death. Prior to her treatment, I told her what ALL of you had said about the tube and she was ready. Thanks to the doctors not wanting to be "foresighted" she is now suffering.

So, enough venting. I'm convinced that we go in Monday and set an appointment for placement of tube. She HAS to get nutrition and fluids and this is obviously the BEST way. I will talk to her over the weekend and try to alay her fears that she's NOT going to die with the tube!

Thanks, Cynthia