Ditto what Amy said - I think in my son's case it wasn't until I gave him print outs to read that he was able to see that the things I was telling him were not just his mother "telling him what to do" but actually very good, knowledgeable, experienced suggestions which truly worked! I think it is possible that some people who are very, very intelligent (my son is one of them), tend to think that if they can't figure out the anwer to something, they think no one else can, which of course isn't true. Finding OCF is a really good thing you did!