Mrs W -

Glad you found the site and sorry for the reasons.

As an RN, you know that the patients attitude and support system can have a great and positive impact on the recovery process. Your strength and knowledge will be very beneficial to your husband.

If I may offer a few suggestions -
First - Start a notebook and have questions ready for the medical staff. Take notes about what was said and try to get the details documented. Read the notes after and make sure they make sense to you and your husband.

Second - Your husband needs to come to terms with what he is facing and what steps he will have to take to become cancer free. When he, (and you), come out the other side of this you will both be stronger in ways you cannot imagine.

Third - Follow the directions of your medical staff. If something is not working for your husband, let them know. Be active in the surgery / treatments / and recovery process

Finally - Prepare. Get his affairs in order. Create a safe comfortable space for him at your home. Be prepared for all potential long term issues, speech / feeding / personal hygiene / mobility concerns. Keep him involved in family decisions and discussions as much as possible.

There is no easy way to do this. For you or your husband. There is a time to fear the unknown and then there is time for action.

Rely or your faith. Depend on your medical team. Focus on becoming cancer free. Provide strength for your husband. These are things you can do.......