Hi, Hellion
great screen name which (I hope)indicates your fighting spirit. I attended many doctor's appointments with my husband - carried a notebook and list of questions. It would have driven me nuts not knowing. If your wife is interested in attending with you, please do not discourage her from being part of the process. It is hard to hear the facts, but it is worse to imagine them.

Various studies slice and dice the data in assorted ways. At least one of those I have seen shows a survival advantage to being married! If you have a partner who is able to help you maintain nutrition and hydration - and make it through treatments with a minimum of interrupts - that is very important. I felt helpless and useless at my husband's diagnosis - but learning that I could be of help to him helped me get through the battle.
Best wishes to you and your family.
Maria