My husband was diagnosed on 10/1- so I can tell you the head spinning gets better. I can now say "cancer" without crying. Telling family and friends was very hard- but now that we have a plan, we are moving forward and living with this disease. Just to forewarn you though- it takes some time to get all of the things in place for treatment. I wanted my husband to start treatment the week after he got diagnosed, but I learned this takes a bit of time especially to get radiation set up. My husband had surgery on 9/21 to remove a mass from his neck, got positive results on 10/1, and it will probably be 11/1 before his treatment actually starts. I agree with others- go to a place that sees and treat this a lot- if you are in NY Sloan Kettering would be a good choice.