Of course, blame is not helpful to anyone, I agree. It's hard not to want to know where the HPV came from, but it's a futile exercise. I was ridden with guilt for months after Gordon's diagnosis. As for the door knob theory, I'm pretty sure the ENT was pulling our legs a bit (he also said "no kissing") in an attempt to ease the tension. He's known for having a somewhat offbeat sense of humour. Anne

Anne - CG to Gordon (59), non-smoker/non-drinker. SCC, BOT, HPV 16+, stage 3. Jan./10 - radical neck dissection to remove 48 lymph nodes, 1 node pos. Apr. 23/10 - finished 35 rad. and 3 cisplatin. Jul. 22/10 - PET scan clear.