There has been no proof that the virus goes dormant, though as David says some people believe this since SOME other viruses can. But we have found no evidence in anyone of a dormant HPV virus and that has ever been published in any peer reviewed literature.

Sometime in the next year we should have an idea how long it can live on a surface outside of a cell. No one currently believes this is any protracted period of time, but if it did, there would be way more of it around in people than there is. Just think, one HPV positive person could touch a door knob entering Grand Central Station, and infect hundreds of thousands of people in a day or two. That isn't happening.

Given the multiple contacts that most people have with others, pegging any one person as the one that gave it to you is impossible, and an exercise in how to start useless fights with people that you care about. The blame game in something like this has no means to be accurate, and no one should engage in it.