Dogman - I am glad that you made the comments you did. They were honest and you and all of us have a right to our own feelings. I'm sure it represented what many of us non-smokers were thinking but were afraid to express. I am also grateful to Barb and everyone else's comments and especially Brian's post. It has helped me to understand my son Paul's anger at why he (non-smoker) got cancer and his brother (smoker) did not. It has also helped me to understand and be more patient with my older son's difficulty in quitting. Certainly, no one "deserves" to get cancer, whatever the cause for its appearance. I prefer to be angry at the cancer beast itself especially if it helps me to fight it.