Hi Doreen, my thoughts and prayers are with you and Lee. Oral cancer is a double whammy. It really hits us where it hurts so much, I mean physically and mentally.
The only pain med that seemed to help me was morphine. I take an anti depressant daily (I am 3 years out). I think it has helped. Like Erik said maybe get him on this board, I know it helped me and still does. God Bless, Carol

Diagnosed May 2002 with Stage IV tongue cancer, two lymph nodes positive. Surgery to remove 1/2 tongue, neck dissection, 35 radiation treatments. 11/2007, diagnosed with cancer of soft palate, surgery 12/14/07, jaw split. 3/24/10, cancer on tongue behind flap, need petscan, surgery scheduled 4/16/10
---update passed away 8-27-11---