Liz,

OMG, Liz, that is exactly what I am dealing with here. Bill is too stoic...docs will ask him how he is doing...he says "fine." MAKES ME CRAZY! I have tried to explain to him that their questions are not "small talk," that they are assessing his status and need INFO! So, I just jump in and start talking. I sometimes feel their brusseling (sp??) beneath the surface but I don't care....someone needs to answer their queries with in-depth answers so Bill can get the care he needs. Truth be known, it is also a result of my control issues...but in this arena...someone needs to be in control!

Deb

Deb..caregiver to husband, age 63 at diagnosis, former smoker who quit in 1997.
DIAGNOSIS: 6/26/07 SCC right tonsil/BOT T4N0M0
TREATMENT START: 8/9/07 cisplatin/taxol X 7..IMRT twice daily X 31.5.
TREATMENT END: 10/1/07
PEG OUT: 1/08
PORT OUT: 4/09
FOLLOWUP: Now only annual exams. ALL CLEAR!

Passed away 1/7/17 RIP Bill