Hi Karen,

Ditto what Kim and Jessica have said. Scour this site. It has more information in one place then you will find elsewhere. I found the site after my treatmetn was finished and it has helped me cope with what I and your father will go through. Ask any questions you want, no matter how trivial they may seem. Lots of Doc's don't like to talk about stages because of possibly scaring someone too much.
We are all here for you and will help in any way we can.

Your father may need a peg tube to keep up his nutrition. Wonderfully ugly device, but they work .

Keep us posted.

Steve


SCC, base of tongue, 2 lymph nodes, stage 3/4. 35 X's IMRT radiation, chemo: Cisplatin x 2, 5FU x2, & Taxol x2. Hooray, after 3 years I'm in still in remission.