Hi, Moona11
I am glad you have your friend's good advice - this is a beastly disease and it is scary. That said - your have some great allies on your side with your doctors and your family. Your surgery is only in a week and a half - once you start treatment you will feel that you are DOING something and have a goal. You are in a fight, but NOT helpless.
Maria


CG to husband - SCC Tonsil T1N2M0 HPV+ Never Smoker
First symptoms 7/2010, DX 12/2010
TX 40 IRMT (1.8 gy) + 10 Cetuximab
PET Scans 6/2011 + 3/2012 clear, 5 year physical exam clear; chest CT's clear of cancer. On thyroid pills. Life is good.