Oh David - I'm so glad you did come here. It really helps just to know there are others who really do care and can feel what you are going through. You and Linda and Michael have all had a pretty rough time of it. And when someone you care about is hurting, especially a child - it's really hard to take a firm stand and set some rules. You've had some good suggestions. Mamacita's idea of a home health nurse might just be the thing that could make a difference. Sometimes someone outside of family, who can see things objectively can offer suggestions to Michael without having him feel like it's his Dad or Mom telling him what to do. It's good that you and Linda plan to go to the support group and hopefully Michael will too. You have always been such a great caregiver but you need care, too - so that you can keep going and surviving and helping Linda to survive as well. I hope things improve and can get a little easier for all of you.