Bette

Even if you had been awake, there was nothing you could have possibly done to save Reggie. There is no reason to feel guilty over something that was impossible to do.
That is the grief talking. You are living my wife's worst fear. She would wake all thru the night to see I was still alive but I keep telling her there would nothing she could do.

Please focus on the facts. Reggie loved you. Reggie knew you loved him. He would not want you to be suffering like this.
While I do not believe in mediums, if they really truly could contact Reggie what he would say is
I love you Bette. There is nothing you could have done. I am waiting here for you. We will be together again. Just you wait and see. Be patient my love. Our love will last forever