I'll try to help you with a different thought. The fact that you have had to deal with these thoughts about mortality may just free you to live your life more fully. At your age this may be a real blessing. It will allow you to live each day knowing what is important. Use all your time wisely and enjoy every moment to it's fullest!

To repeat there is NO way anyone knows what statistic your husband will be! Fearing the unknown is a waste of time.

By the way if everyone followed statistics, we would not drive a car.

Mark, 21 Year survivor, SCC right tonsil, 3 nodes positive, one with extra-capsular spread. I never asked what stage (would have scared me anyway) Right side tonsillectomy, radical neck dissection right side, maximum radiation to both sides, no chemo, no PEG, age 40 when diagnosed.