Okay, here's my thoughts...besides the fact I agree with Gary and Joanna... Even if the statistics were accurate and took all the variables into account (which they don't)

Who's to say that your husbands are not in the 20% - to worry and have it become all consuming WILL ruin your life. Please don't do that.

As caregivers you have a tougher road than us patients, but please don't let cancer destroy your family. We are here for all the venting you want to do, there are so many of us that have been in your place or a loved one has.

Remember, "cancer is a word, not a sentence"

Take crae,
Dinah