I guess maybe that's where my confusion lies. He has always been the kind to rip it apart and figure it all out. And he has, to some extent, he sent me here after all. He goes to survivor meetings, and has spoken a few times. He even wrote an article taht was published in the survivor newsletter about bucking the system, not accepting the doctor's prognosis, and looking for alternitive treatments. I think that's theraputic for him. At this point, he's doing okay. I just worry about him and his lifestyle, high stress, schmoozing clients (ie, drinking socially) and like I said I know he still smokes, and hides it. But you're right, I'm powerless there. He will make his choices, and he does it knowingly. So, I will sit back and watch and step up when prompted. Thanx for your reply.