im so sorry to hear of how badly ur BIL is taking the news. the diagnosis is an overwhelming feeling. it changes ur whole life instantly.
but there are so many that have survived, not only higher stages of cancer, but also having it two and three times...they are on here. it is not a death sentence. it is a fight for ur life.
my hubby is one that after getting a 20% survival rate, kicked its butt and is now showing no signs of cancer!

the recorder is a great idea. i had pen and paper and wrote EVERY WORD down that i didnt know and looked it up later. this helped alot. this site also helped tremendously although he hasnt ever gotten on here, but i tell him about all the posts, and it helped me be informed about what to expect.

maybe making that trip to go to a doctor visit will be able to clear alot of the miscommunication up.

hang in there...