#33453 05-22-2004 07:02 PM | Joined: May 2004 Posts: 137 Gold Member (100+ posts) | OP Gold Member (100+ posts) Joined: May 2004 Posts: 137 | I HAVE SAID FROM DAY ONE IF YOU HAVE "C" ONCE AND YOU BEAT IT,,THEN THAT SHOULD BE IT,,YOU WON,,,BUT NO, NO, NO IT HAD TO COME BACK AGAIN AND THEN AGAIN,,,HOW MUCH CAN A BODY TAKE,,WELL I AM FINDING THIS ALL OUT,,NOW..IT HAS BEEN A LONG BATTLE FOR ME,,,BUT FOR 10 YEARS I LIVED AND I LIVED LOVING EVERY MINUTE THAT I HAD,NOW I AM IN THE HOUSE, I LOOK LIKE A CHIPMUNK,,LOL,,I DO,,FROM ALL THE SWELLING,,,,AND I AM ANGRY..THAT I SHOULD HAVE TO GO THRU ANY OF THIS AGAIN,,I AM ANGRY,, YOU BET I AM,,WHO WOULDN'T BE,,BUT I GO ON. I GET UP EVERYDAY AND PUSH MYSELF..THIS IS MY NEW WORD THIS TIME AROUND,,,I AM ANGRY,,,I COULD THINK OF A FEW MORE BUT THIS ONE IS NICER AND CLEANER,,LOL,,,I WOULD LOVE TO SMASH SOMETHING, HOWEVER I DONT HAVE ANYTHING TO THROW OR I SURE AS HELL WOULD...I WATCH MY 28 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER CRY OUT OF THE CORNER OF MY EYE,,AND YES I AM ANGRY, THESE ARE TEARS THAT SHE SHOULD NOT HAVE TO LET FLOW DOWN HERE FACE AGAIN..SHE SHOULD BE ABLE TO LIVE HER LIFE WITHOUT ALL THIS SADNESS..TOMORROW IS YET ANOTHER DAY, MAYBE THE SWELLING WILL GO DOWN??? AND WE PRAY | | |
#33454 05-23-2004 07:32 AM | Joined: Mar 2004 Posts: 164 Gold Member (100+ posts) | Gold Member (100+ posts) Joined: Mar 2004 Posts: 164 | Miss Vicki,
I am sorry that you have to experience the pain and suffering of a reoccurance. I think we have all been angry, you are after all griefing your cancer free life. I think it's totally normal. Too bad Dee's out of pocket for awhile (she's relocating)she could tell you about smashing things. I'm not sure if anyone has mentioned this, but since you're already there you will have no problem making it. We are having a OCF gathering in Las Vegas in September. Keep that in mind.
Again let me welcome you to the board! Lynn
Stage 3, N0, M0 oral tongue cancer survivor, 85-90% of tongue removed, neck disection, left tonsil removed, chemo/radiation treatments, surgery 11/03, raditation ended 1/04, lung mets discovered 4/04,
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#33455 05-23-2004 08:18 AM | Joined: Sep 2003 Posts: 1,244 Patient Advocate (1000+ posts) | Patient Advocate (1000+ posts) Joined: Sep 2003 Posts: 1,244 | Miss Vicki Look back over the smash things thread.. when we get to Vegas we are going off with machine guns.. we are good at anger and smashing things..Yep Lynn we need Dee back here.. love and Hugs Helen
SCC Base of tongue, (TISN0M0) laser surgery, 10/01 and 05/03 no clear margins. Radial free flap graft to tonsil pillar, partial glossectomy, left neck dissection 08/04
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#33456 05-23-2004 08:56 AM | Joined: Jul 2003 Posts: 1,163 Patient Advocate (1000+ posts) | Patient Advocate (1000+ posts) Joined: Jul 2003 Posts: 1,163 | Welcome Miss Vicki,
It feels good to vent and let off a little steam. I am truly sorry you have to go thru this again. It does suck. One thing i've learned about life in general is nothing is fair. You play the hand your dealt. At the end of all your emotions I think we have to accept things we can't control. As Gary amd many others have said, "Live each day to the fullest, Live in the present. We all never really know when that bus will hit us. I hope you can find some comfort on this forum. There is a ton of experience you can tap into. Helpful, caring, loving people who are all going through a similer situation. We each react different to similer situations. But we are always here for each other. We are here for you also!!!
Your Friend, Dan
Daniel Bogan DX 7/16/03 Right tonsil,SCC T4NOMO. right side neck disection, IMRT Radiation x 33.
Recurrance in June 05 in right tonsil area. Now receiving palliative chemo (Erbitux) starting 3/9/06
Our good friend and loved member of the forum has passed away RIP Dannyboy 7-16-2006
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#33457 05-23-2004 11:42 AM | Joined: May 2004 Posts: 137 Gold Member (100+ posts) | OP Gold Member (100+ posts) Joined: May 2004 Posts: 137 | Thanks Dan,, it just gets to me some days more than others, I just don't fell that a person should have to fight all there lives,. I think that is sad. But I will do whatever I have too. To survive, to see my grandbabies grow some more, to love my Honey some more, to boss my 2 children some more.They are grown and they don't mind it now...I thank you for being here for me,,We need all the support we can get, and all the love we can get.. | | |
#33458 05-23-2004 12:13 PM | Joined: Feb 2004 Posts: 261 Gold Member (200+ posts) | Gold Member (200+ posts) Joined: Feb 2004 Posts: 261 | Angry? Yesterday, I thought I had the corner on the market. I guess not, huh! I did smash something , but it didn't break. Thank goodness! One of the many plastic waste baskets I spit into endlessly & it had a lot of spit, paper towels & toilet paper in it! Miss Vicki, I/we feel your pain & all wish we could take it away & would if we could! Please keep yer chin up!
dx 2/11/04 scca bot T3 IU 2B MO poorly differentiated, margins ok, 3/16 modest, jaw split, over half of tongue removed, free flap from left forearm - finished chemo & rad treatment 5/20/04
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#33459 05-24-2004 06:42 AM | Joined: Dec 2003 Posts: 2,606 Likes: 2 Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts) | Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts) Joined: Dec 2003 Posts: 2,606 Likes: 2 | Miss Vicki, Hell, as I have been reading your posts, I even get angy! I get a bit philosphical at times (as everyone will atest to here ) but I see the world today in all of it's glory, in all of it's suffering. I wonder why each and every one of us has had to endure one, for some, two, for some and beyond for you. I was once told that God never gives us more than we can handle and I ask Him often if He is sure when it comes to me. He finds ways to affirm my faith in Him: the birth of my children, the new flowers blooming in the spring, waking to the sounds of the baby birds on the roof outside of our bedroom window, meeting all of you! I am so sorry you have had to fight this battle so many times now but you have truly been blessed to have been given that opportunity. May God continue to bless you! Ed
SCC Stage IV, BOT, T2N2bM0 Cisplatin/5FU x 3, 40 days radiation Diagnosis 07/21/03 tx completed 10/08/03 Post Radiation Lower Motor Neuron Syndrome 3/08. Cervical Spinal Stenosis 01/11 Cervical Myelitis 09/12 Thoracic Paraplegia 10/12 Dysautonomia 11/12 Hospice care 09/12-01/13. COPD 01/14 Intermittent CHF 6/15 Feeding tube NPO 03/16 VFI 12/2016 ORN 12/2017 Cardiac Event 06/2018 Bilateral VFI 01/2021 Thoracotomy Bilobectomy 01/2022 Bilateral VFI 05/2022 Total Laryngectomy 01/2023
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#33460 05-24-2004 12:02 PM | Joined: May 2004 Posts: 137 Gold Member (100+ posts) | OP Gold Member (100+ posts) Joined: May 2004 Posts: 137 | | | |
#33461 07-14-2004 05:08 PM | Joined: Jul 2004 Posts: 16 Member | Member Joined: Jul 2004 Posts: 16 | i've been there and i still go there i was diagnosed in 2003 april 8 my BIRTHDAY then i had a recurrance 2004 april 8 agin ....guess what no more dam BIRTHDAYS .......lol iam 30 yrs old
well i now exactly how you feel i watch my fiancee tear up now and again and it feels like theres a hole in my heart that gets bigger and bigger i have so much love for that woman that i can't put it into words if it was not for her i don't know where i would if cancer is the worst thing that happens to me she is definately the best ..believe me angels exist i lay next to one every night
take care god bless hang in there
30yr WM ,2003 dx oral squamous cell ca of tongue had lesion removed on lt side of tongue and 9 nodes 1 node pos. had 36 treat. rad therapy 2004 had lesion growing on lt base of tongue had partial glossectomy with skin flap taken from left arm
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