| Joined: Oct 2010 Posts: 8 Member | OP Member Joined: Oct 2010 Posts: 8 | my husband says i dont have cancer even though the dr says i do (byopsy results say oral carsonoma),he keeps telling me nothing is wrong and doesnt want me to talk to anyone about this, ive held all my feelings in since january i need to talk about this im scared and confused! | | | | Joined: Sep 2008 Posts: 711 "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts) | "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts) Joined: Sep 2008 Posts: 711 | Having read both of your posts it's easy to see why you scared and confused. The only thing I can offer (aside from sympathy) is to go to your local American Cancer Society and I hope they can help you out.
David R. 65 yr old male non-smoker, light drinker, stage 3 or 4, depending on which doc you ask, scc rt. tonsil, 2 nodes, 7 weeks radiation and chemo. No surgery. Teatment ended 3/20/08. PET scan 8/08 showed no cancer. And now, as of oct, 2010, caregiver to wife, Linda, with breast cancer. May, 2013, Linda diagnosed with stage 3 ovarian cancer. Enuf already.
| | | | Joined: Mar 2002 Posts: 4,912 Likes: 52 OCF Founder Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts) | OCF Founder Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts) Joined: Mar 2002 Posts: 4,912 Likes: 52 | After reading your other post (you should just continue on one of these posts only so we can follow the details of what is happening) What does your husband know about anything? Where did he get his medical degree from? Would allowing you to see the appropriate people be some kind of hardship on him? You need to be your own advocate here and do what you think is best. Doing nothing is not an option.
Brian, stage 4 oral cancer survivor. OCF Founder and Director. The first responsibility of a leader is to define reality. The last is to say thank you. In between, the leader is a servant. | | | | Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 10,507 Likes: 7 Administrator, Director of Patient Support Services Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts) | Administrator, Director of Patient Support Services Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts) Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 10,507 Likes: 7 | Lisa, welcome to OCF. I am so glad you have found this group. You need our help!!!! First if you dont mind me asking, how old are you? It is very very important that you get treatment for this. This is life or death. Please go to a cancer center immediately. I have added a link to the cancer centers at the bottom of this post. When I hear of spouses acting like yours it makes me very upset. Your husband is so lucky to have you. Sometimes unfortunately spouses do not fully realize how lucky they are to have a person who loves them. He should also join OCF if for nothing else to understand how important it is to get treatment for this. I wish you all the best. Please keep posting so we are able to help guide you along. http://oralcancerfoundation.org/resources/index.htm#centers ChristineSCC 6/15/07 L chk & by L molar both Stag I, age44 2x cispltn-35 IMRT end 9/27/07 -65 lbs in 2 mo, no caregvr Clear PET 1/08 4/4/08 recur L chk Stag I surg 4/16/08 clr marg 215 HBO dives 3/09 teeth out, trismus 7/2/09 recur, Stg IV 8/24/09 trach, ND, mandiblctmy 3wks medicly inducd coma 2 mo xtended hospital stay, ICU & burn unit PICC line IV antibx 8 mo 10/4/10, 2/14/11 reconst surg OC 3x in 3 years very happy to be alive | | | | Joined: May 2010 Posts: 638 "OCF Down Under" "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts) | "OCF Down Under" "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts) Joined: May 2010 Posts: 638 | Hi Lisa It appears your husband is confused about the definition of carcinoma which is a common misunderstanding. "Carcinoma" is another word for cancer but means that it is likely early stage -not pre-cancerous as some people think.
It is also possible that you heard one thing and your husband heard something completely different so at the very least you need to go back to the doctor for clarification. Immediately. Treatment for oral cancer that has not spread is a whole lot easier and more successful than one that has.
Karen Love of Life to Alex T4N2M0 SCC Tonsil, BOT, R lymph nodes Dx March 2010 51yrs. Unresectable. HPV+ve Tx Chemo x 3+1 cycles(cisplatin,docetaxel,5FU)- complete May 31 Chemoradiation (IMRTx35 + weekly cisplatin) Finish Aug 27 Return to work 2 years on 3 years out Aug 27 2013 NED Still underweight
| | | | Joined: Jun 2009 Posts: 138 Senior Member (100+ posts) | Senior Member (100+ posts) Joined: Jun 2009 Posts: 138 | Lisa, where are you in Arizona? I'm in Mesa. Let me know if you are near me. Maybe we can get together and talk.
BOT-SCC Partial glossectomy 7/16/09. Stage IV, Rt ND 10/2/09. Teeth out 11/5/09. Port/peg in, 11/20/09. 7 wks rad & chemo, end 1/22/10 lung, colon biopsies 1/9/11 - both cancer colon resect surg 1/10/11 Folfox + Avastin - discontinued 6/11 lung surgery 3/13/12, 5/1/12 mets to liver and bones passed away 9/4/13
| | | | Joined: Sep 2009 Posts: 177 Senior Member (100+ posts) | Senior Member (100+ posts) Joined: Sep 2009 Posts: 177 | Lisa, please follow the great advice here. Find a doctor to talk to about your situation. Keep comming back here we will support you.
Wendy 46yrs@ DX 9/16/09 T1N0 SCC of leftlat tongue, poorly differentiated.Partial glosectomy 10/01/09 & 10/16/09 & 11/10/09 60-70% tongue removed, Radical fff, 38 nodes-clear, no rads/chemo. 3 petscans-clear
| | | | Joined: Oct 2010 Posts: 8 Member | OP Member Joined: Oct 2010 Posts: 8 | Bloop, I live in chino valley,az, but my uncle is in east phoenix and i come down as often as i can to see him i would enjoy getting together to talk. Lisa | | | | Joined: Jun 2009 Posts: 138 Senior Member (100+ posts) | Senior Member (100+ posts) Joined: Jun 2009 Posts: 138 | Oh wow, you are way up north!! E-mail me at [email protected] or PM me next time you will be in Phoenix. I'd enjoy getting together too. I haven't met anyone in person from this forum even though I feel they're the only ones who understand me. My family seems to think since I'm done with radiation and chemo I should just be back to my old self now. Barbara
BOT-SCC Partial glossectomy 7/16/09. Stage IV, Rt ND 10/2/09. Teeth out 11/5/09. Port/peg in, 11/20/09. 7 wks rad & chemo, end 1/22/10 lung, colon biopsies 1/9/11 - both cancer colon resect surg 1/10/11 Folfox + Avastin - discontinued 6/11 lung surgery 3/13/12, 5/1/12 mets to liver and bones passed away 9/4/13
| | | | Joined: Jul 2010 Posts: 531 "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts) | "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts) Joined: Jul 2010 Posts: 531 | bloop19, can i ask did you get all your teeth pulled? My boyfriend did and they told him at first he should be fine for dentures in 6 mo than the last time he went I guess the radiologist put a kabash on that saying he may never be able to get them. I wasn't there so I don't know exactly what he said. Maybe Ron just heard it wrong. Have you gotten dentures?
CG to Ron Out of Pain 4/3/13 4/12-lung and under chin growth no treatment 1/13/12 lung biopsy 6/11 recur 6/30 resection #2 Clear margins Clear 12/10 Surg 5/13/10 neck dis/nodes part gloss/flap R thigh all teeth out RAD 30 8/10 DX 4/2/10 "Oral Cavity" T3NOMO 12/28/07 Non Hodg Lymph remission 7/08 passed away 4.3.15, RIP Ron, you are greatly missed
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