After reading your other post (you should just continue on one of these posts only so we can follow the details of what is happening) What does your husband know about anything? Where did he get his medical degree from? Would allowing you to see the appropriate people be some kind of hardship on him? You need to be your own advocate here and do what you think is best. Doing nothing is not an option.

Brian, stage 4 oral cancer survivor. OCF Founder and Director. The first responsibility of a leader is to define reality. The last is to say thank you. In between, the leader is a servant.