Rosie,

I second everything Joanna has said. You are not the expert at this anymore than any of us are. We all make choices based on what we read and try to learn as we go through this. And above all we do what we think is best.

I don't think there are any of us that haven't at one time said "why didn't they tell me that?" And it makes us all angry. Thank goodness we have this place to vent. It would upset our loved ones too much to always vent to them.

You and Heather sound as if you are ready to take this next challenge head on, and God bless you!!

Dinah