I just wanted to say that I am also a new member (just found the site a couple of days ago, yeah!) and I have also gone through a lot of the issues you're going through (if you're interested, look at the Introduce Yourself board for Annie M). My husband, 6 mos post tx, was almost worse (ok during the fight but unhappy with final results) after tx but davidcpa and others helped give me perspective that things will get better. My husband also did (does) the somewhat pushing away "thing" but I am realizing that this is all part of the process. Hang in there and know we are all there for you and your husband. This entire forum has been a Godsend for me, even in the short period of time I've been here. I hope the same for you!
My thoughts/prayers are with you and yours!