Jennie,
Talk to your husband about how you feel. My husband and I, who have always had a strong and healthy sex life, didn't have sex for many, many months during and after my treatment. My PEG tube was my biggest reason, I just didn't feel real sexy with it!! Our marriage and our sex life is even better now due to what we endured together.

Here's a very true story for you. My husband is not big on talking about his own personal sex life "with the guys". You know how some men will talk about how they don't "get enough", etc. He would never dream of that, but he does get a kick out of hearing some of his friends talk. He has a friend, Ivan, who is a real character. Well, Ivan got sick and didn't feel well for a few months. He had some swelling in his testicles, and he had himself convinced that he had testicular cancer, I felt so bad for him. Finally, the doctors diagnosed him. They told him that he wasn't having enough sex. They told him that some sperm had died and created an infection within his testicles. They told him he needed to have more sex.....................so Ivan asked his doctor is he would write a note to his wife explaining that, that she would never believe it!! I laughed so much with my husband over this.

Take it one day at a time with your husband. Try creating intimacy that doesn't center on sex, I found that helped us alot.