Oh dear julie,
you do have your work cut out.Rob went through a stage exactly as you describe and it drove me nuts.All i can say is that once he accepted all the different medications and found out they worked he was no more trouble,in fact he asked for them!!I got through to him by being very hard faced and telling him i didnt want to hear his moaning and groaning if he wouldnt take the treatment and advice offered.Then i just took no part in his medication or feeding and left him too it.Very quickly he started asking me for things and i gave them to him without comment,and he eventually thanked me and said he wished he had tired things earlier.When you have a difficult man to cope with you have to learn to play them at their own game.

good luck

love liz