I'm living with a man who just had the confirmation here recently that he has cancer on his tounge and mouth and is needing surgery soon.. i understand hes in a lot of pain and it seems he doesnt want bothered.. but what i dont understand is how he can be so mean and push away the one that he claims to love... i dont know what to do for him... i know this is his cancer but he doesnt understand that it affects me too.. he has no idea how it hurts me to see him in such pain....i find myself crying at the drop of a hat here lately.. it doesnt matter where...home ..work... it just happens...WHAT IS A PERSON TO DO???...