Hi Jeff,

Sorry you had to find us here, but you'll find all the support you need from all these wonderful people. Encourage your wife and son to check out the forum, too.
I am a cargiver for my husband with Stage IV base of tongue, RT side, too. He had 3 postive nodes on teh right and one on the left. I guess I'm using the caregiver word a little loosely, though. He is doing pretty well. He had his 26th IMRT treatment today and will have his 6th Cisplatin therapy on Friday. You can get through this. My husband has a PEG and I think it helped him tremendously. So far he has only lost "1"..yes, only 1 pound. Everyone is differnt, not everyone is miserable throughout their treatment.
I wish the best for you and your family. We all know what you are going through right now and it seems unbearable, but it will get better.
Vicki