That is so hard. As Christine says a therapist/counsellor would be helpful to you both. I heard a talk by a health psychologist today and she sees head and neck cancer patients all the time, giving them all the support and understanding they need. She runs a course for survivors called Acceptance Commitment Therapy. While your husband has a grim prognosis, he feels well now so maybe this is a good time to come to terms with what's happening while maintaining hope that the chemos will keep the tumours from growing. There's always the hope that a clinical trial will show benefit. Wishing you well!!!!