Thank you for your responses.

ChristineB - I agree that there seems to be more unknown for HPV than known right now. And a lot of the information doesn't necessarily make sense to me and seems a bit contradictory. I am less ashamed than shocked and scared right now.

Cheryld - Yes, the doctor's have confirmed that it is HPV + and he even took another look at my biopsy because the cancer is in such an unusual location. I am being treated at the Medical University of South Carolina. My doctor's there have been wonderful and I feel that I am in good hands.

Female, Age 38, healthy non-smoker, rarely drank, regularly workout
May 2014 noticed irritation on tongue
6/18 saw doctor
6/25 saw ENT specialist got biopsy
6/30 Dx HPV P16+ ve SCC tongue cancer
7/9 CT scans, no visible spread
8/20 partial glossectomy with radial forearm flap, neck dissection 26 nodes sampled - results T2 N0 with mild dysplasia
4/2015 start to have ear pain
5/2015 recurrence
6/4/2015 surgery 29 nodes samples pN 2c
7/13/2015 7 wks of Chemo & Radiation start