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You've found the right place to start. It's a long road to travel but you've got three boys and a loving wife to walk the road with you and they are worth the fight! It's scary to look ahead and overwhelming but the best advice is be prepared and read as much as you can now about treatment and procedures. Take someone with you to take notes and be your second ears. And come here with your questions. Show your wife this site too. Caregivers on this site have some great advice and she'll need the support. Good luck to you! - Kris