Jay, this just sucks.
You and Jen are right to do what you think is best for the both of you. I am so glad Jen feels well currently and hope this continues for a long while.
Honestly, I don't think any of us truly knows how we would react or what decision we would make unless we are living it. It is so hard.
Enjoy that youngster together, make memories.
I am thinking of you all,
Tammy