Hi Paula, glad you're here. There are a lot of people who come here for advice and it's always good to have another voice of experience. Iknow that oral cancer gets completely overlooked at our local RFL. As a volunteer perhaps you could get Brian Hill to send you some hand outs.

David R. 65 yr old male non-smoker, light drinker, stage 3 or 4, depending on which doc you ask, scc rt. tonsil, 2 nodes, 7 weeks radiation and chemo. No surgery. Teatment ended 3/20/08. PET scan 8/08 showed no cancer.
And now, as of oct, 2010, caregiver to wife, Linda, with breast cancer.
May, 2013, Linda diagnosed with stage 3 ovarian cancer. Enuf already.