I am sorry to hear about your situation, mine is just as bad, my husband had the 3rd reoccurrence within 5 months and has been in pain and he refused to fight anymore, the surgeries tore him up and he was going to try and go to Cancer center but just taking him to a hospital an hour away was way too much and he said he had enough, called hospice in and fighting with getting meds under control, getting progressively worse, sometimes i wish he would have tried radiation the second time, but he refused! Said he would let god decide!

CG to Joel 1st tumor flr of mouth 1998, 38 rad trmts 2nd tumor back of mouth/throat, rad neck, part remvl of jaw, soft palate rmvl, no chemo or rad, has a peg tube since dec 2011.Frmr smkr 25yrs ago, drinker, worked in HVAC indus 35yrs. 3rd dx on 6/20/12, hospice6/29/12, died July 17, 2012