Jennie

Those of us in the recurrence club (patients & caregivers) get
[quote]But really does the stage matter at this point? It's cancer, it's a reoccurrence and it sucks[/quote] at a visceral level. I know how hard the second time was for me and my wife and I can only imagine how terrible this is for you.
While I hope the pathology reports and scans are good, if they are not, don't believe the standard advice that your husband cannot get more radiation or chemo. I'm living proof you can. So there is hope even if the news is bad.
Also, I would not give Erbitux a third chance but switch to carboplatin if there is chemo. My MO ditched the Erbitux for my second TX since in his opinion, if the Erbitux had done its job, my cancer would not have come back. He's working on a test to identify the 50% of us for whom Erbitux is worthless but so far it's just luck of the draw.
So sorry to hear about this. It does suck
Charm