I too am so sorry for your loss. To battle so hard and lose the fight in the end stinks. I don't think there any specific words that could ease your grief, but hopefully it helps to know you have some extended family out here in cyber space!! The caregiver forum is a good place to find a few folks who have recently lost someone. That might be a good place to look at and read.
Thinking of you,
Kathy


Kathy wife/caregiver to:
Kevin age:53
Dx 7/15/11
HPV16+ SCC Stage IV BOT/R
Non smoker, casual drinker
7/27/11 Cistplatin, taxotere,5FU 2/3week sessions, followed by IMRT 125cgy x 60 (2x daily) w/Erbitux weekly. Last rad 10/26/11. Last Erbitux 10/27/11
PEG placed 9/1/11 Removed 11/8/11
Clear PET 10/12 and 10/13 and ct in 6/14