Hi Alcajazz
I don't know the answers to your questions but respond to acknowledge your post and let you know that these are hard questions so it may take awhile for someone who knows what they are talking about to respond.

However, if you want my thoughts on the matter ... I am not seeing anything in your post that suggests you have cancer as dysplasia is not cancer. For this reason, I would think a wait of a month is probably ok? I suspect if your oral surgeon suspected something really nasty and needing urgent attention, he would have pushed for an earlier appointment?

Then there's the lump and subsequent tissue removal that is of HPV origin which I assume is the dentist's take based on what it looks like given this is unconfirmed???. I wonder if the dentist was referring to an actual wart which is certainly caused by HPV but would be one of the benign garden variety types (ie not type 16 or 18 which are the ones that progress to cancer)