Hi Su and Janet,
I wish I could help more, but my hubby has not yet had his surgery. (2/24 is our big day)
There IS some bone involvement, along with palate/salivary gland cancer, tho we don't know how much til surgery. I pray it is not too extensive. If so, I may be coming to YOU to ask for advice and info.
In the meantime, our prayers are with you and we send good thoughts. In my experience (bilateral breast cancer) prayers are the best and mightiest gift. I wish you both well, and will look for further posts from you, hoping most are positive.
God bless you both.
:)marie