Was/is she a tobacco user?

Has her cancer cells been tested for HPV?

Where is she being treated?

What have they recommended?

IMO these need to be answered before one can even begin to understand what may be going on inside her emotionally. Obviously no one wants to be told they have cancer and I assume she was Staged a III but there are potentially many treatments options which could determine how she copes.

Also try and get her to join this site as she could gain invaluable information that she will never get outside this site and she may well get misinformed by even her treating doctors and nurses.

David

Age 58 at Dx, HPV16+ SCC, Stage IV BOT+2 nodes, non smoker, casual drinker, exercise nut, Cisplatin x 3 & concurrent IMRT x 35,(70 Gy), no surgery, no Peg, Tx at Moffitt over Aug 06. Jun 07, back to riding my bike 100 miles a wk. Now doing 12 Spin classes and 60 outdoor miles per wk. Nov 13 completed Hilly Century ride for Cancer, 104 miles, 1st Place in my age group. Apr 2014 & 15, Spun for 9 straight hrs to raise $$ for YMCA's Livestrong Program. Certified Spin Instructor Jun 2014.