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I've been reading your forums and all the stories from the amazing strong people who post here. its the middle of the night but i just cant sleep and feel so scared. i just feel like bursting into tears all the time.

I'm a 46 year old male from England.

I have never smoked and dont drink anymore as I have a fatty liver although i did drink in my youth but never excessive.

for the last 3 weeks ive had a 2x1cm shallow lump on the left side of my hard palate. However, the actual "sore" area seems to be larger than just the lump and stretches towards the centre. It feels solid and doesn't move and doesn't seem to be an ulcer or a cankersore (from pics ive seen on the net). The surface is smooth but it is a very slight different colour to the rest of my hard palate in the dip portion. It doesn't hurt but it is a little sore especially when i press on it or run my tongue firmly over the lump.


Its the first time ive really studied my hard palate and I'm a little shocked as most of mine (in the dipped area) seems more yellow/light than a nice pink colour that most people seem to have. This has totally knocked me for six and I pray each night that it will have shrank overnight but each morning its the same. Whenever I look online all I seem to see is cancer and when i find a pic of a hard palate that looks like mine its always for oral cancer. As my lump is on the left i know its not torus. i seem to be running out of options of what it could be and I'm now convinced this is malignant.

The extra worry for me is that for the past 6 months ive noticed I seem to be struggling with swallowing saliva, especially at night. I can eat and drink fine but swallowing saliva is a struggle and feels like its getting stuck. I originally put it down to anxiety but now the lump has appeared and I'm wondering if this is related.

I have a wonderful wife and two fantastic children and the thought of not being here for them is scaring me. How will they cope as we have a mortgage.

I'm now not sleeping and my anxiety is through the roof and I'm finding it hard to concentrate on anything else. i have hidden my worries from my wife until i have seen the dentist and/or the ENT but I'm finding myself getting emotional all the time.

i see my dentist on Wednesday but he isn't an ENT professional so he will probably send me for a referral to my local hospital. As we have the NHS in the Uk it could be a while before i get the referral and get any results.

Does this sound like hard palate cancer? If not what else could it be? I am so worried its a tumour...as i know the prognosis is poor.

sorry for my long post......


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Welcome to OCF! Please do yourself a huge favor stay calm and avoid Dr Google. It sounds like Dr Google is fueling your anxiety by taking you from having a sore to not being here for your family.

Im sorry but I only know how the medical system works in the US, so Im writing this in that way. Find yourself an ENT who specializes in treating oral cancer patients. You do not want the type of ENT who mainly puts tubes in kids ears. Its likely you will have a few visits until you know what you are dealing with. An experienced ENT should give you a thorough oral cancer exam. They can only give you an educated guess as to what the sore is. Only thru taking a tiny tissue sample (biopsy) will they know for certain. Even with years of medical schooling, clinical practice a biopsy is necessary. Its not possible for a patient to diagnose themselves by matching online photos so please convince yourself that you do not know what it is but you will find out. Earlier I advised you to try to stay calm. Its likely to be a few weeks until you get the results.

I know its not easy to stop worrying. All the worrying in the world will never change a test result, it only makes you feel bad. All that extra stress you are burdening yourself with is NOT helpful in any way. At this point its way too early to be upset about having a poor prognosis. The sore could be any number of minor things which are easily treated. I also recommend leaving the sore alone, dont poke it or keep rubbing it with your finger or tongue. Take it step by step, one day at a time. Try to stay super busy so the time passes easier. Repeat as often as necessary... its NOT cancer until the biopsy says it is. Try your best to go about your regular life. Even if it would turn out to be cancer, it is not an automatic death sentence.

Wishing you all the very best with this. Please let us know how you make out with the biopsy.




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Hi christine

Thank you so much for replying. I am really trying to stay as calm as i can. Getting sleep is proving the hardest part. The anxiety of it all is preventing me falling asleep and yet again i find myself up in the middle of the night for the 4th night in a row. Tonights big worry is how long has this lesion been in my mouth without me noticing it. I cannot feel the lesion very well with my tongue as its painless, smooth and almost flat so im worrying if its been there months and ive not spotted it until 3 weeks ago when i felt it with my finger. I wonder how long its been spreading and if its now also elsewhere in my body. Like you say getting an answer and knowing what im facing will actually help as i can focus on beating it. I guess fear of the unknown is always the worst.

Work is proving hard to concentrate but at least its keeping me busy i guess. Im an accountant so staying focused and not making mistakes is the hardest part. I am trying hard not to think about it but i was sat at my desk yesterday wondering if i would even be sat there in a few months or if i would be battling the hardest fight of my life. I just keep hoping its all a horrible nightmare and im going to wake up and its all a dream....if only!

Reading your reply has helped so much and you are 100% correct in everything you say. I cannot thank you enough. Just knowing someone else in the world understands what im going through makes a massive difference. I so want to be able to talk to my wife about this as we are soul mates and are always there for each other but i am not burdoning her with this until i now more.

The NHS is a strange one. On one hand its totally free so no worry about medical inaurance or bills, but on the other its painfully beureacratic and takes forever to get through the system. It also means you get whatever doctor/ specialist you are assigned. Once you are under a specialist you then only deal with that department and they book everything. So once i finally get the referral i will be checked over and an appointment will be made for ct/mri/biopsy. Unsure which order they will be done. All long winded and time consuming.

im hoping my dentist can get me an urgent referral. Thats all im expecting from wednesdays appointment with the dentist. I dont expect my dentist to know too much about oral cancer (especially hard palate) as they tend to concenttate on teeth. Like you say. Its the biopsy that counts. There opinion is meaningless except i need him to get me that referral to the specialist.

We actually have a trip to australia booked in 3 weeks (for 16 days). My wifes brother lives there. This holiday has come at a bad time although it has been booked in for a year. I fully expect i will get my referral to the ent specialiat while we are away. I really wish we could change the dates but flights are non refundable and have cost thousands. Those 16 days are going to prolong diagnosis and will also mean an extra 16 days in starting treatment or having an operation if they find its cancer.

Part of me wants to cancel the holiday and take the hit on the flights. But my family would be devastated, especially my wife who is so looking forward to meeting her brother as its been so long. As i wont have a diagnosis it also means 16 days of tumour growth and the prolonged torture of not knowing if i have cancer. If this is cancer i know that surgery is going to be horrendous when dealing with the hard palate. Thanks to the internet it is now in my head and i cant unforget what hard palete cancer entails i cant unforget the poor survival rates and at best massive permanent disfigurement for the rest of my life

My nephew is also getting married in may. If this is cancer that will probably be when i am having or had major surgery so i may not even make that.

I think im struggling due to the fact that my life basically hangs on the outcome of what this tiny 2cm lesion in my mouth. Its surreal.

Will 16 days make a massive difference to the prognosis and outcone if treatment is needed? I guess i mean could those 16 days make a difference to the stage of the tumour and the outcome of my treatment?



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I am a 3 time oral cancer survivor and like all of our members, I do not have a medical degree or background. Ive learned a ton of info by reading every single post and all the info from the main OCF site. After almost 10 years, a lot of it has sunk in smile

You are making yourself upset about the unknown. You do not know if your tumor is cancer or even what it is. Somehow you are fast forwarding the situation into a death sentence before you have consulted a physician. This way of thinking is not only unproductive but also making everything so much more difficult than it has to be. Do yourself a big favor and stop all the negative thinking. Currently you are a healthy adult who has a very good career, planning a wonderful vacation with your family. Do NOT let this cancer scare steal your time and happiness away from you.

You have control over what you think about. You have control of your emotions and the choices you make in life. At this time no terminal diagnosis has been given so it would be much easier for you if you started looking at this a different way. Practice the following until it becomes second nature... When you start thinking negative thoughts about the "spot", allow yourself only 2 minutes to think about it. Thats all the time you get, then physically get up and "change the channel". Go read a book that holds your interest, start a hobby or home improvement project, go on your vacation, just do something that is positive and requires concentration. This is a way to start getting some peace of mind about your situation.

Until you can get a handle on your thinking, cancer (which you dont even know if you have) is ruling your life. The fear of the unknown is in control right now, not you. Cancer is stealing precious moments away from you (and your family) right under your nose. Your life should NOT be ruled by a teeny tiny "spot"! Being an accountant, you must be a very intelligent person. To me, that means you can overcome the end of the world way of thinking.

As someone who is disfigured after going thru 3 rounds of oral cancer in 3 years, my life can be difficult at times. My scars cant be hidden, Im missing half of my lower jaw. Im fairly certain IF it turns out you would have cancer that you would have a surgery like I did. Remember, take this day by day and dont get too far ahead of yourself.

If you still are struggling mentally after trying several of my suggestions, maybe its time to see your family doctor to ask about anxiety meds and seek out a therapist to help you better manage your emotions? It couldnt hurt. Just make sure if you would get meds to ask about how long it takes until you notice a difference. Some of those meds can take weeks until any improvement is seen while others work for a bad day here and there. Make sure you relate everything you wrote here to your doc so they know the entire story and can better help you.

Hang in there!!!!


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7/2/09 recur, Stg IV
8/24/09 trach, ND, mandiblctmy
3wks medicly inducd coma
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hi christine.

Yes you are totally correct. I am being way too negative, many apologies if i am coming across that way. Anxiety and depression is a horrible thing. The silly thing is i am quite strong in every other aspect in life. The anxiety is actually showing physical signs now as i have found my struggling to swallow saliva is getting worse ( absolutely fine when drinking or eating) but last night couldnt get my throat to do the swallowing action. I am 99% sure this is anxiety related to have come on so quickly.

So i am going to ask my gp for some medication to help with this anxiety.

I feel a little embarrassed at these middle of the night ramblongs especially when you have been through so much. You have my upmost respect and do a fantastic job on this site.

I visited the dentist yesterday who didnt have a clue. First she said it maybe was a problem with my siliva gland but later seemed to come away from that idea. In the end she said we will give it another 2 weeks and said if it still hasnt gone down she will refer me to the hospital. I explained that i have had this quite a while already but she still wanted an extra 2 weeks wait time.

Do you think i should bypass this and go see my gp and see if he can get me an urgent referral before i go on holiday? if i wait 2 more weeks i wont be getting any referral until after australia

Dentistry is the only opart of the medical service that is not covered by the nhs. So that cost me £20 for a 2 minute conversation.

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Hi Yorky,

Welcome to the forum. Please don't beat yourself up for worrying. Cancer is a dreaded disease and it's only natural that you feel depressed and anxious.

I am from Canada and we have social medicine as well, similar to, though not exactly the same as the NHS. It does have wait times -- a referral from the GP to see the ENT may be five to six weeks, and the province of Ontario has a target of six weeks between a positive diagnosis to the start of treatment. There will be preparatory steps to go through, like a biopsy, getting a mask made (if case of radiation being ordered), and getting the teeth examined by a dental oncologist to ensure that the teeth are protected., etc. These fill up the time between the diagnosis to the start of treatment. We also don't get our own choice of doctors, but we can be confident that the doctors know what they are doing at the cancer centre. Really, my personal view is, we have to trust our doctors wherever we end up for treatment.

The holiday to Australia is a sticking point and the money paid is not the only issue. I am sure you and your family will be disappointed if you can't make the trip. However, is it possible to delay the start of treatment (if it is necessary) for a couple of weeks or get a refund from the travel agent if you have a doctor's note stating you are "unfit" to travel? I am not saying you will need this, but just in case, these may be possibilities.

I am hoping that you won't need our advice at all. It is that sometimes it is hard to see over that wall that's our fear.

Wishing you the best of luck!



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Hi

Well ive decided i need to see my gp asap as my lump has gone wierd in the last 24 hours.

Literally overnight the lump which was the same(ish) colour as my palate is changing. A sore has popped up next to it and the rest of the lump seems to be getting sort of red dots and sort of micro veins in it. The whole lump is getting redder by the hour. Its not getting any bigger though just the colour. I can feel the lump in my mouth now, its not so much painful but tingling

Surely this cant be good but i didnt think things could change this quickly. I took a pic of my mouth yesterday and took one this morning and i can see the lump getting redder sort of spreading from the sore. Every picture i take i can see more of the lump is red...its absolutely scaring ne stiff.

If this covers the whole of the lump it will be just a little smaller than one of your dimes. The one thing i kept saying to myself was that the lump was not red or white or ulcerated but now im freaking out. Ive not touched my lump at all for the last couple of days so its not like ive aggrivated it.

Also ive noticed that feeling of a lump in my throat has also gotten worse. It feels like there is something at the back in my throat that wont go down. Food and drink is still fine.

The new sore is also quite painful. I see my gp on tuesday, by the time that comes the lump will be completely red.

Does this sound like cancer to do this so quickly?

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To answer your question and to echo the fact we're not doctors, IMO, no, what you describe is not typically how OC presents itself.

With respect, your post indicates a high level of anxiety (health anxiety). I do recommend seeing your GP for two reasons. Reasurrance (which is just a band aid over an open wound) and to discuss your reaction to what I feel will be a benign issue. As was suggested, discussing your anxiety and how to manage it would be prudent.

Good luck and as always...

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Hi

its been a couple of weeks since I posted. ive been trying to keep off the internet as you advised.

The lump is still there and the dentist is referring me to the max facial department at my local hospital. I asked why not the ent dept and she said that max/fax deal with mouths. She also said its the nhs so the appointment wont be until after my holiday.

I don't know if I mentioned but ive been having pains in my ears for the last month. They also feel blocked especially when I swallow. Ive noticed my tonsils and throat are also red {not swollen though} and the glands under my chin are both swollen and tender either side. { I think they are the submandular glands} I am still struggling to swallow saliva, could all these be linked?

Rhe ear ache is the worst bit as it quite painful and keeping me awake. Does anyone know what could be causing these symptoms?

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Has anyone on here had nasal or sinus problems before radiology/chemo? Maybe nasal sinis cancer? I noticed that my left nostril feels almost blocked. Not a full blockage but certainly much harder to breathe from. Ive also been reading about the nasal cycle but that doesnt seem to be affecting my nostril breathing.

I hope its something thats as simple as deviated septum but it seems a mighty co-incidence that i have this growth on my hard palate so im now wondering if i have something growing downwards into my hard palate from my sinuses.

Im trying not to get to carried away with my thoughts but its making more sense as ive had sinis problems for years and not put 2 and 2 together asthe other nostril compensates my breathing. It would also make more sense as i dont seem to fit oral cancer profile where as nasal cancer profile is less about alcohol and tabacco usage.

I did have a ct scan around 5 years ago when doctor thought i may be nasal drip.

Im wondering how ear pain could be linked to this and wonder if the growth is large enough to effect the ear tubes. I have also been getting a numb area on the front of my nose. Could this be link

I really wish wasnt going on holiday and wish i could get this looked at. I know this is going tp be on my mind the whole time. I wonder what the hell is going on up there to cause this. All i can think about is the poor prognosis and how my face may be altered.

Sorry for venting again.

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Help....in need of your valued help!!

Im currently on holiday, enjoying the sun in Sydney. I listened to what you said on here and went on our dream holiday. Today ive had a bit of a sore throat and also noticed that the edge of my soft palete on the left hand side has swollen up to the same size as the hatd lump. This is also right next to the hard lump on my hard palate which im worried so muxh about. So now the hard and soft palete on the left hand side are equally swollen.

Is this something that cancer can do in a day?

Literally swell up in a day? Im freaking out as i cant go to the docs here and have to wait another week until i return. The lump had been quite stable since i first noticed it last month but now the soft palete has swollen im scared stiff.

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Im very sorry you are having a hard time right now. Ive been away from home and gotten very ill. It is NO fun at all!!! Just being away from home and your regular doctors is stressful enough without all the new issues.

Please understand our group is made up of oral cancer survivors and their caregivers. We do not have years of medical education, training and clinical practice to earn a medical degree.

Im sorry your posts did not receive any response yet. Here in the US, your post came in at 2:29am and the second at 5:49am. The majority of our members are in the US and were likely sleeping so have not seen your questions. I suggest checking out our search function. The search function can answer many common questions instantly. Just type your keywords up in the small box near the top right of any page.

One thing I can advise you about is your stress levels. Stress can play some nasty tricks on the body, especially when not feeling the best. Stress is not helpful to any patient, it only makes everything more difficult. Some patients under too much stress from worrying will see major changes in their symptoms. This could have something to do with what you are going thru. I know you were very apprehensive about going on the trip.

I do not know for certain weather in only 24 hours cancer can cause the major changes you described. If I had to guess I lean toward saying its doubtful cancer can create those kind of changes in such a short amount of time. But I honestly do not know for certain.

There are doctors aboard every cruise ship. They probably have not ever seen oral cancer or an OC patient but they are medical professionals who should have some sort of idea about how cancer presents itself. I suggest to ease your mind to go see the ships doc. It cant hurt to get checked out. Maybe its something minor irritating your mouth and simple medications can help? Maybe steroids can take the swelling down?

Hang in there and try your very best to stay busy to keep from worrying too much.


PS.... This link may help you to better understand about how oral cancer is diagnosed. There are many links to read thru I suggest starting with oral cancer facts then discovery/diagnosis.


Main OCF site --- Understanding oral cancer




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Something is obviously wrong. Many different diagnoses need to be considered, not just cancer. We cannot determine what is wrong. For you to keep trying to decide if it is cancer or not will not help you.

You say you will be away for another week. Even if you were still home, you would have to wait for consultation appointment. The important thing is that you have a appointment already set-up for your return.


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ive read your story and am sorry to see you here.the mental anguish can be devestating. the mind is a powerful thing.
in reading your story you have forgotten one thing......your wife.you need to let her into your world of concern.she can be the greatest supporter which you need. i have had oral cancer and the mental side can consume you. without my wife by my side,i never would have made it.have faith and i hope the prognosis turn out for the better.

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Thanks guys.

The anxiety of all this is killing me i have to admit. Once we get back from our holiday i will tell my wife my worries. Im not going to ruin her holiday now. Seeing her so happy i dont want to ruin it for her.

So as well as worrying about a mouth cancer, my anxiety is focusing on my nasal area again at the moment. I have noticed i have a much tighter space inside the right nostril vestibule than my left. The top bit of the air hole is almost fully closed. I have suffered from sinus problems for years and can see my right side of my septem is bright red and sticks out much nearer my nostril. Im unsure if this is a deviated septum or if its a growth but the bright red colour is worrying.



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I understand how anxious you are, but it's not helping you to stay positive. The more you focus on what is wrong, the more things seem to be wrong. Have you considered doing some relaxation exercises to help you relax? There are lots of videos on YouTube that you can follow for relaxation. There are just a few more days to go before you return home. Relaxing until you get home may be the best way to cope.


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Hi guys

Thanks for your time with this. You dont realise how much of a lifeline this is at the moment.

Its been a tough day today. I have the mother of all headaches that no tablet has fixed. My nose now feels permenantly numb and ive been getting cheek and ear pain all day. My right nostril now feels completely blocked. My septum is still bright red which has me very worried.

The more i look at pics if my "lump" in my mouth, with the latest changes, its more of a swelling over a good few cm's. I wish you guys could see these pictures so you could see what a mess im deaking with.

Im trying not to 2nd guess here but its feeling more like a nasal sinus problem with hard palate infusion which would make this x10 worse.

The finish my day off my daughter has emailed me a copy of my nhs appointment letter with an ENT specialist that turned up at our house. My appointment is for the 15th march. That is way too far away i was hoping it would be almost straight after we get back at the weekend.

Things are not looking good for me here. Everytime i try and be positive i wake up the next day feeling worse.

This holiday has been a nightmare and cost £6000 which is money i will definitely need if i cant work.

Im thinking i may go to A&E when i get back if i am still feeling like this as i cant wait a further 2.5 weeks for that appointment.

I keep seeing pics of my kids on my phone homescreen and just feel like screaming. I just wish this was a horrible nightmare that i could wake up from. This year had so much promise and now this. Im sufferering So many advanced symptoms it makes me wonder how bad all this is and whether its now even operable.

I have so many horrible thoughts in my head right now. Will it be terminal? How will i look? what will my quality of life be like? will my wife still want me? How will we cope financially if i cant work afterwards?

I just feel so helpless and scared and all i want it to hug my wife and children.

Thanks for allowing me to vent guys.

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Yorky, take a deep breath.
You certainly are borrowing sorrow from tomorrow !
Please try and stop watching, taking photos of you mouth, googling, to try and fathom out what is going on in your mouth.
You need a specialist and a biopsy to confirm anything. At the moment you are jumping to conclusions and terrifying yourself. There may well be nothing sinister going on at all. What a shame that you have not been able to enjoy your holiday with your wife.
If I was you, I would go and see your GP when you return to the UK. Tell him/her about all this worry and the stress you are under. Maybe they can get your appointment moved up and also give you some anxiolytic type medications.
I wish you all the best with this and I sincerely hope this turns out to be nothing. Then you will have borrowed all this sorrow from tomorrow for nothing.
Please keep us updated,
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Well its been a horrible week. Im freaking out with it all.

Got back to the UK, rang the hospital to see if i could get an earlier appointment with a possible cancelation but nothing available. So i will have to wait until the 15th march.

I have had terrible symptoms all week. A headache, ear-ache and pain in my cheek all continuous. Every few hours i seem to get a numb nose then it subsides before its back. Every morning i wake up its numb for a good 30 minutes. My right nostril is now permanently blocked and i have streaks of blood in my mucus when i blow it. I have also had toothache right underneath where im getting the cheek pain. I also think the lump on my hard palate has grown more.

Im really worried by these symptoms now as they seem to be getting worse each day. I have a really bad feeling about it all and my head feels like it will explode with all the pressure. If this is cancer it means its very advanced so what chance will i have.

I see a maxillofacial dentist at the hospital on friday morning (ordered by my dentist) and then i see the ENT next wednesday (ordered by my GP for my nasal problems)

Does anyone know if the maxillofacial dept will just check my mouth or will they be able to check my nose too? I dont know how much more i can take. I really want to know whats happening up there but am im also so scared of what they will tell me.

I cant believe all this is happening to me, im only 46.

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Yorky, Im very sorry to see you are still over-stressed and overwhelmed. This is NOT helpful at all. Have you considered seeking out a therapist or someone professional to talk to about your mortality fears? I (and other members) suggested this to you almost 2 months ago. Many patients who have been diagnosed with a serious medical condition need a little help to adjust to the situation. I understand how stressful waiting can be. There are many things available to help, anxiety medications work wonders. Some of the meds take weeks for the patient to see results. Other anxiety meds are for patients who dont need it every day and the patient gets immediate relief.

I strongly recommend you to seek out a professional to help you deal with your situation. Please understand while your situation is horrible, sadly many here have it much worse. Our site has some very sick patients, some have been given a terminal diagnosis, some are unable to take even a sip of water for the rest of their lives, some cant speak; not ever, some are in hospice, others "only" are having a life altering surgery. Yet, somehow these patients will do their very best to make the most of every single day they are happy knowing they are fortunate enough to still be alive. These "brave" people even help others who are in need of info and support without considering their own medical problems.

Please take it day by day and do your very best to focus on what is within your control. I know for a fact if you can concentrate on something positive you will be able to better deal with your situation. Keeping busy can do wonders in helping to pass the time until you get diagnosed (hopefully with nothing serious). I hope you are never diagnosed with any type of head and neck cancer. Best wishes with your upcoming appointments.


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Hi christine.

Yes you are right. I have read many of the posts of members here and am in awe of their bravery.

Ive done 3 things as suggested by members on here.

Firstly, my GP has put me on anxiety medication. 100mg ammitriptyline per night. Unfortunately its not instant and can take a while to work. Hopefully this will make this journey a little easier. The tablets certainly give you dry mouth in a morning.

Second. My GP is going to refer me to have counseling. She agrees i need it whatever they find on wednesday either for cancer diagnosis or for health anxiety if not.

Third. Ive told my wife. I am so glad its out in the open now. She is coming with me next wednesday. She said we will face this together and if its bad news we will fight it together. She is fantastic and my soul mate. I love this woman and want to grow old with her. I know that once i find out what im facing i will be much stronger for her and the children

I see a max/facial consultant tomorrow for my lump on my hard palate but im not sure what they will be able to do. They will probably just say to mention the lump when i see the ENT doc on wednesday when he checks my nasal area.

Today ive had such pains behind my right eye. Im hoping this is not related to my problems. Surely i would have more pain and symptoms in my nasal and sinus's before it reached my eye.







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Hi Yorky ! I was happy to read your post in that you have been quite busy preparing. Medication and counseling play a big part in this whole picture, and having your soul mate at your side will make a tremendous difference in walking this path. I love her response when you told her ! Sounds as though she is going to be incredible strength for you.

We all will be here so please check in often and let us know how you are doing.


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Hi

So ive been to see the ENT today and had a scope in my nostrils.

The scope revealed i have chronic sinusitis. He has put me on a 6 week course of antibiotics (clarithromycin) and 2 lots of nasal spray. If this doesnt clear my sinus's he will then do a ct scan. I told him i had already had 1 week of antibiotics but he aaid that wasnt enough and i needed longer with this type of antibiotic.

He thinks i may have 3 seperate problems. My sinusitis, my eye pain and the lump in my mouth that arent related to each other.

He is hoping the lump in my mouth will reduce once the antibiotics work their magic and if not will do further tests on the lump in 6 weeks.

For my eye pain, he wants me to see an ophthalmologist. He did notice that i have a ring of grey forming around the edge of my iris (my eyes are brown) which he said needs investigating. Upon reading on the net i see it could be a number of reasons ranging from contact lens trauma, high cholestrol and even age. i dont know if this is anything to do with my eye pain but the pain isnt easing so im going to get an emergency appointment tomorrow as the pain is getting me down.

So im feeling a little better about it all. I still dont have a concrete diagnosis for my hard palate lump but the ENT seems pretty sure its not sinus related. This was my main worry. I guess we shall see what happens in 6 weeks time.


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Congrats on the great news!!! smile

Best wishes with your recovery from the problems your ENT discovered. Hoping you will heal quickly and completely.


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2x cispltn-35 IMRT end 9/27/07
-65 lbs in 2 mo, no caregvr
Clear PET 1/08
4/4/08 recur L chk Stag I
surg 4/16/08 clr marg
215 HBO dives
3/09 teeth out, trismus
7/2/09 recur, Stg IV
8/24/09 trach, ND, mandiblctmy
3wks medicly inducd coma
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PICC line IV antibx 8 mo
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Great to hear you're getting answers to your questions.


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Thanks.

Im still not out of the woods yet with my lump in my mouth, i think more tests will be done when i next see him again in 6 weeks. But i feel much much better that all the symptoms are not linked.

I rang my GP today about my eye but they could only get me in for Monday. Hopefully i can get my gp to get me an urgent referral to see the ophthalmologist as its still no better.

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