#91435 03-09-2009 01:01 PM | Joined: Mar 2009 Posts: 48 Contributing Member (25+ posts) | OP  Contributing Member (25+ posts)
Joined: Mar 2009 Posts: 48 | I am the daughter of an oral cancer patient. She is battling right now. I joined to try and gather strength from everyone here. I wish that no one had to go through this, but that just wouldnt be reality. I feel at my wits end most days and hope that i can muster the strength to be there for my mom!
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Mom 48 diagnosed Sep 08 Stage IV SCC
full glossectomy, neck dissection traech and peg Nov 08
35 radiation treatments and 3 chemo
Mar 09 mets to lungs
Started Erbitux 3/09/09
06/26/09 mets to rib
Stopped Erbitux 6/26/09
Start erbitux/taxol 7/06/09
Started Hospice 7/24/09
Passed away 8/09/09
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Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 8,311 | It is a tough job to not be the patient as all of the Caregivers and family members will tell you so don't discount yourself for how you feel. Tell us more about your mom and tell us what is frustrating to you. This site is here to help all associated with this cancer.
David
Age 58 at Dx, HPV16+ SCC, Stage IV BOT+2 nodes, non smoker, casual drinker, exercise nut, Cisplatin x 3 & concurrent IMRT x 35,(70 Gy), no surgery, no Peg, Tx at Moffitt over Aug 06. Jun 07, back to riding my bike 100 miles a wk. Now doing 12 Spin classes and 60 outdoor miles per wk. Nov 13 completed Hilly Century ride for Cancer, 104 miles, 1st Place in my age group. Apr 2014 & 15, Spun for 9 straight hrs to raise $$ for YMCA's Livestrong Program. Certified Spin Instructor Jun 2014.
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Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 5,260 | I think you stated your feelings very well and let us know just how worried you are for your MOM.. Just be there for her as much as you can andget the rst of the family to do the same but don't croud her too much. You all have to learn to cope with this nasty disease and get the game plans from her Drs. Laern as much as you can, but be there. Good luck and you all are in our prayers.
Since posting this. UPMC, Pittsburgh, Oct 2011 until Jan. I averaged about 2 to 3 surgeries a week there. w Can't have jaw made as bone is deteroriating steaily that is left in jaw. Mersa is to blame. Feeding tube . Had trach for 4mos. Got it out April.
--- Passed away 5/14/14, will be greatly missed by everyone here
| | | | | Joined: Mar 2009 Posts: 48 Contributing Member (25+ posts) | | OP Contributing Member (25+ posts)
Joined: Mar 2009 Posts: 48 | Thank you so much all of you for your support. This site has been extremely helpful.
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Mom 48 diagnosed Sep 08 Stage IV SCC
full glossectomy, neck dissection traech and peg Nov 08
35 radiation treatments and 3 chemo
Mar 09 mets to lungs
Started Erbitux 3/09/09
06/26/09 mets to rib
Stopped Erbitux 6/26/09
Start erbitux/taxol 7/06/09
Started Hospice 7/24/09
Passed away 8/09/09
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