#52117 07-23-2007 08:06 PM | Joined: Mar 2002 Posts: 1,140 Likes: 1 Patient Advocate (1000+ posts) | Patient Advocate (1000+ posts) Joined: Mar 2002 Posts: 1,140 Likes: 1 | Nelie, I have marched, and run from angry police, in support of equal rights (when I was younger and faster). I was not slighting male caregivers at all, of which my husband was an extraordinary one, only referring to all women caregivers as a sisterhood in the context of this thread.
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#52118 07-24-2007 02:34 AM | Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 8,311 Senior Patient Advocate Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts) | Senior Patient Advocate Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts) Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 8,311 | I don't believe that I could have been as good as a CG as my wife but I do believe that I was a better patient than my wife would have been. Now I was a pretty bad patient but my wife is far more stubborn than I could EVER be which is why in my opinion she was a great CG.
Nelie, as a male patient I didn't come to this site for social support, although it's a definite benefit. I came for education, knowledge and answers which was even better than I could have imagined.
David
Age 58 at Dx, HPV16+ SCC, Stage IV BOT+2 nodes, non smoker, casual drinker, exercise nut, Cisplatin x 3 & concurrent IMRT x 35,(70 Gy), no surgery, no Peg, Tx at Moffitt over Aug 06. Jun 07, back to riding my bike 100 miles a wk. Now doing 12 Spin classes and 60 outdoor miles per wk. Nov 13 completed Hilly Century ride for Cancer, 104 miles, 1st Place in my age group. Apr 2014 & 15, Spun for 9 straight hrs to raise $$ for YMCA's Livestrong Program. Certified Spin Instructor Jun 2014.
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#52119 07-24-2007 04:17 PM | Joined: Apr 2005 Posts: 2,676 Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts) | Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts) Joined: Apr 2005 Posts: 2,676 | I'm not a good patient either, when it was determined that I had, indeed, had a stroke [about 8 hrs. after it started] I refused to go the hospital - "just give me some medicine and let me go home". That was a stupid and hardheaded reaction. But during the ensueing rehabilitation of adjusting to the loss of sight in one eye and the loss of lots of brain power, my husband was a consumate caregiver [especially during the times I insisted he leave me alone!] Even after I regained some control over my brain and adjusted to life with one eye, he continued to do many of the things that I could have done[yep-he spoiled me rotten]. Caregiving isn't defined by gender- in my experience it is defined by strenght, determination and love. Amy in the Ozarks
CGtoJohn:SCC Flr of Mouth.Dx 3\05. Surg.4\05.T3NOMO.IMRTx30. Recur Dx 1\06.Surg 2\06. Chemo: 4 Cycles of Carbo\Taxol:on Erbitux for 7 mo. Lost our battle 2-23-07- But not the will to fight this disease
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