#51556 06-15-2006 03:50 AM | Joined: Jun 2006 Posts: 15 Member | OP  Member
Joined: Jun 2006 Posts: 15 | Hi, I'm new to the site. I am the wife of a stage 4 SCC of the tonsil survivor that had spread to a lymph node. Jon, my husband is 36 and just completed radiation, chemo, and the neck dissection in March. I was 8 months pregnant when he was diagnosed back in Sept. Our issue now, (other than cancer ofcourse) is can OR should we have another child? We've always wanted two pumpkins. Our son, who is almost 7 months old is wonderful! I know that chemo can affect fertility and possibly the child, but not likely from what I've seen. Jon's chemo doctor was not forthright on information concerning children. Considering he is of child-bearing age (HA), you would think he would've questioned us about it. Anyway, I know that this is  a personal decision, but I'd love to hear if anyone knows someone that has dealt with this. We worry about recurrence obviously, but we also don't want that to become a deterrent to what we want out of life. Jon's radiation doctor said to wait 6 months after chemo to try. Well, we'd wait longer since I just had Evan. But....we don't want to wait too long.......do we? Any advice or comments out there? Ann | | |
#51557 06-15-2006 08:35 AM | Joined: Jul 2005 Posts: 207 Platinum Member (200+ posts) | | Platinum Member (200+ posts)
Joined: Jul 2005 Posts: 207 | I'm no expert, but if you want another child. Please go for it. You may have other conbsiderations if one of your family has a long history of cancer, but just because Jon had oral cancer doesn't stop you from having more children. If the two of you decide, then go for it.
Steve
SCC, base of tongue, 2 lymph nodes, stage 3/4. 35 X's IMRT radiation, chemo: Cisplatin x 2, 5FU x2, & Taxol x2. Hooray, after 3 years I'm in still in remission.
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#51558 06-15-2006 04:42 PM | Joined: Nov 2005 Posts: 79 Senior Member (75+ posts) | | Senior Member (75+ posts)
Joined: Nov 2005 Posts: 79 | Hi Ann,
If you look on the survivor forum on this web site you will find a march 19th post from Raymond where he writes about having been married and having a child post treatment.
You might like to read it.
Mary
Caregiver for John SCC left tonsil Stage III/IV dx Sept 05, tx started Oct 21/05 -IMRT 35, cisplatin 3 X 100mg/m2;completed Dec08/05.
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#51559 06-15-2006 04:49 PM | Joined: Mar 2002 Posts: 4,912 Likes: 52 OCF Founder Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts) | | OCF Founder Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts)
Joined: Mar 2002 Posts: 4,912 Likes: 52 | The best non profit realted to this subject is at http://www.fertilehope.org Ironically this was started by an oral cancer survivor
Brian, stage 4 oral cancer survivor. OCF Founder and Director. The first responsibility of a leader is to define reality. The last is to say thank you. In between, the leader is a servant.
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