Welcome Mike! As you gather more information as far as the extent of your cancer, treatment plan, more can be answered. Even without knowing such, treatment, which basically consist of surgery, radiation, chemoradiation or a combination thereof, won't be easy, doable yes, as everyone here capable of posting did manage some how.
As mentioned, it's important, and probably a standard at this point, that oropharyngeal cancer be tested for
HPV-16 or p16 positivity. If p16 positivity then they should test for
HPV also since not all p16 is
HPV related, but is a strong indicator of such.
Hopefully you are being treated at one of the recognized CCC, comprehensive cancer centers, throughout the country, who have experience in head and neck cancer. If not, I suggest you look into one designated by the NCI, National Cancer Institute, NCCN, National Comprehensive Cancer Network or one highly rated by U.S. News Report's Best Hospital's in Cancer, ENT, Ear Nose throat, which patient outcome can make a difference at these locations. Getting several opinions can also valuable, as well as saving all copies of meducal reports, scans, biopsies, etc.
http://www.nccn.org/members/network.aspxhttp://www.cancer.gov/research/nci-role/cancer-centers/findhttp://health.usnews.com/best-hospitals/rankingsGood luck.