| Joined: Feb 2015 Posts: 17 Member | OP Member Joined: Feb 2015 Posts: 17 | Since my surgery and being in recovery I cry at the strangest times. It can be quite embarrassing. Talking to a friend or family member about nothing really, working with children, hugging my husband, seeing flowrs...I am like a fountain. Is this the new normal? I see the surgeon this Friday for check up..thanks for listening
I am a 65 year old reitired woman. I have been married to a great man for 42 years. I had a right breast masectomy 15 years ago.
squamous cell carcinoma under my tongue was diagnosed earlier this month. I had surgery 2/3/15. 22 lymph nodes out of my neck came back negative for metasis. The Drs. say I do not need chemo or radiation. I'm off the feeding tube and now on a liquid/soft food diet. I see the surgeon again next week. I am grateful and optimistic.
| | | | Joined: Mar 2014 Posts: 286 "OCF Down Under" Gold Member (200+ posts) | "OCF Down Under" Gold Member (200+ posts) Joined: Mar 2014 Posts: 286 | When I started this journey a veteran friend told me "when you find yourself sitting on the floor in the shower crying at 2.30am, just remind yourself that that is ok."
It seemed ridiculous at the time. But two months later, I found myself in exactly that position, and I looked at my watch, it was 2am.
Crying is normal, its all the other stuff we go through that isn't. Cheers, Dave (OzMojo) 19Feb2014 Diagnosed T2N2bM0 P16+ve SCC Tonsil. 31Mar2014 2 Cisplatin, 70gy over 7 weeks (completed 16May2014) 11August2014 PET/CT clear. 17July2019 5 years NED.
| | | | Joined: Mar 2011 Posts: 1,024 "OCF Kiwi Down Under" Patient Advocate (1000+ posts) | "OCF Kiwi Down Under" Patient Advocate (1000+ posts) Joined: Mar 2011 Posts: 1,024 | Good post. I am a Caregiver and I too find myself crying and /or teary eyed at odd times. Even now 3 years later , I still get emotional and teary if the matter of Kris's cancer comes up. I do this too when others are unwell, or have their own issues to deal with. I guess it's just the emotional response to it all. My co workers /friends are used to this from me and are great. I think this will always be my response being an emotional being. Tammy
Caregiver/advocate to Husband Kris age 59@ diagnosis DX Dec '10 SCC BOT T4aN2bM0 HPV+ve.Cisplatin x3 35 IMRT. PET 6/11 clear. R) level 2-4 neck dissection 8/1/11 to remove residual node - necrotic with NED Feb '12 Ca back.. 3/8/12 total glossectomy/laryngectomy/bilat neck dissection/partial pharyngectomy etc. clear margins. All nodes negative for disease. PEG in. March 2017 - 5 years disease free. Woohoo!
| | | | Joined: Mar 2014 Posts: 79 "OCF across the pond" Supporting Member (50+ posts) | "OCF across the pond" Supporting Member (50+ posts) Joined: Mar 2014 Posts: 79 | Hi there , I'm with you on the crying at odd times , I too am very emotional I never use to be so its a bit of shock when you find yourself tearful in the staff meeting or whilst sat eating your tea ! Don't know if this is coincidentally or not but my doctor said my uncontrollable emotions could be due to my under active thyroid which I've just been diagnosed with , just a thought. Then I tell myself , hey what's a few uncontrolled emotions , it's allowed I've been through a lot ! My staff team now just hand me the tissues and says it's only Di at it again , give me a hug and tell me I'm doing good . And so are you my friend. Hugs x
Di 47 none smoker / drinker
T4 SCC left tonsil 1 Cistplatin,30 RAD finished treatment on 4/12/2013 Trismus First MRI scan appears clear TX NG tube 9 weeks acute vommiting, syringe driver 9weeks 2 month checks | | | | Joined: Dec 2010 Posts: 5,260 Likes: 3 "OCF Canuck" Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts) | "OCF Canuck" Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts) Joined: Dec 2010 Posts: 5,260 Likes: 3 | It's all about fear and the unknown and sentimentality. Also being overwhelmed. And it's okay.
In time hopefully it will all ease... but for now you have the right to feel everything your feeling. Maybe talking to someone will help?
Hugs.
Cheryl : Irritation - 2004 BX: 6/2008 : Inflam. BX: 12/10, DX: 12/10 : SCC - LS tongue well dif. T2N1M0. 2/11 hemigloss + recon. : PND - 40 nodes - 39 clear. 3/11 - 5/11 IMRT 33 + cis x2, PEG 3/28/11 - 5/19/11 3 head, 2 chest scans - clear(fingers crossed) HPV-, No smoke, drink, or drugs, Vegan
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