| Joined: Jan 2014 Posts: 2 Member | OP Member Joined: Jan 2014 Posts: 2 | Hello, new to this so bare with me. My husband who is 60 years old was diagnosed June 2013 with stage 2 tonuge cancer. the tumor was at the base of his tongue. he had surgery to remove the tumor, developed thrush was hospitalized for a week. Then had a neck section done in July removed lymph nodes on both sides of his neck. August cancer free. Went in for his 3 mo post check and was complaining of an ear ache and hard to swallow. He has now been diagnosed with stage 4a tongue cancer and is in his 2nd week of radiation. he will have 5 more weeks of radiation 5 days a week and 2 more 6 hour chemo treatments in that 5 weeks. Each day it gets harder and harder for him have an intrest in eating and i feel i'm "nagging" him. He's starting to get depressed also. what a long road ahead for him.
Robin | | | | Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 8,311 Senior Patient Advocate Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts) | Senior Patient Advocate Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts) Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 8,311 | Sorry you both are having to deal with this. Was his cancer tested for the presence of HPV? Where did it come back? Where is he being treated? I assume the chemo is Cisplatin? If so watch out for "ringing in his ears". If he starts to hear ANYTHING strange or different especially after the 2nd bag, tell his docs immediately. You may even want to ask for a hearing test now to establish a baseline just in case. Find a recent blood test and record his TSH level and keep that for future reference if needed. Do get him to consume a ton of calories and water each and every day from now until well past his first year of recovery. He will lose his taste, if he already hasn't. His worse time will most likely occur starting around the 4th week of Tx and continue thru his 3rd week after Tx ends with the worst of that coming after Tx ends. I only mention this because it's common among us and I don't want either of you to think this is abnormal. We can all react differently so hope for the best. This site will be invaluable during this Tx and beyond so please keep posting and reading. You as the Caregiver, which is not a nice job to land, will be constantly tested and you may have to become the nurse from hell from time to time and he will most likely NOT appreciate it until after his treatment is weeks past so just be prepared.
David
Age 58 at Dx, HPV16+ SCC, Stage IV BOT+2 nodes, non smoker, casual drinker, exercise nut, Cisplatin x 3 & concurrent IMRT x 35,(70 Gy), no surgery, no Peg, Tx at Moffitt over Aug 06. Jun 07, back to riding my bike 100 miles a wk. Now doing 12 Spin classes and 60 outdoor miles per wk. Nov 13 completed Hilly Century ride for Cancer, 104 miles, 1st Place in my age group. Apr 2014 & 15, Spun for 9 straight hrs to raise $$ for YMCA's Livestrong Program. Certified Spin Instructor Jun 2014.
| | | | Joined: Jan 2013 Posts: 1,291 Likes: 1 Patient Advocate (1000+ posts) | Patient Advocate (1000+ posts) Joined: Jan 2013 Posts: 1,291 Likes: 1 | Hi Robin, Welcome to OCF, the greatest place of 1st hand insight to oral cancer. Sorry about the recurrence, the worst scenario for cancer survivors. At this point, all you can do is take each day as it comes. Plan on him feeling pretty crappy until about 4 weeks post chemo/rads. That is a reasonable target. Some recovery quicker some take longer.
Watch three things and make sure none of them go unattended or get away.
HYDRATION - NUTRITION - PAIN MANAGEMENT
Simple yet hard to stay on top of. Doing your best on these will get him through as best as possible.
Good luck, Don
Don Male, 57 - Great health except C Dec '12 DX: BOT SCC T2N2bMx, Stage 4a, HPV+, multiple nodes 1 tooth out Jan '13 2nd tooth out Tumor Board -induction TPF (3 cycles), seq CRT 4-6/2013 CRT 70gr 2x35, weekly carbo150 ended 5/29,6/4 All the details, join at http://beatdown.cognacom.com | | | | Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 10,507 Likes: 7 Administrator, Director of Patient Support Services Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts) | Administrator, Director of Patient Support Services Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts) Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 10,507 Likes: 7 | Robin, welcome to OCF! Im very sorry to hear about your husbands recurrence. Of course he is upset, anyone would be. The bad part is this will only get harder as time goes on. Its a very long road ahead.
You certainly have your hands full. At some point you might have to put on your nurse hat from heck and get your husband to face reality. This is no walk in the park and he must get onboard and help with things he has control over (his intake and attitude). I would start by asking at his treatment center if there is any therapists available who work with the cancer patients. OC patients have a high rate of depression, many take anxiety meds. Even some caregivers do as well. Its not easy and its ok to rely on temporary help to get thru it. Whatever works to make it easier is what is necessary.
Your husband MUST take in a minimum of 2500 calories and 48 oz of water every single day. This needs to become the norm and continue for at least the first year after he finishes the treatments. Recovery can be a long process where his nutrition and hydration will play a role in how he progresses. That is also what will make or break him during treatments. Pick up some Boost very high calorie drinks and have him include a couple every day to help push his calories intake higher. Believe it or not he could even take in 3500 or 4000 calories daily and it wouldnt be too much, he probably wouldnt even gain a pound. He is still recovering from his first round of OC so his body burns calories at an amazing rate. This is what is within his control so this is what your husband needs to focus on, not what he cant change.
Stick with us and we will help you both get thru this. ChristineSCC 6/15/07 L chk & by L molar both Stag I, age44 2x cispltn-35 IMRT end 9/27/07 -65 lbs in 2 mo, no caregvr Clear PET 1/08 4/4/08 recur L chk Stag I surg 4/16/08 clr marg 215 HBO dives 3/09 teeth out, trismus 7/2/09 recur, Stg IV 8/24/09 trach, ND, mandiblctmy 3wks medicly inducd coma 2 mo xtended hospital stay, ICU & burn unit PICC line IV antibx 8 mo 10/4/10, 2/14/11 reconst surg OC 3x in 3 years very happy to be alive | | | | Joined: Jan 2014 Posts: 2 Member | OP Member Joined: Jan 2014 Posts: 2 | thank you all for your input. i've had to put my nurse ratchet hat on to try and get him to consume those calories. some days it works other days not so much. i'm frustrated and scared and mad all at the same time. his cancer is not due to HPV but to smoking and drinking jack daniels for 45 plus years. He's FINALLY quit smoking altogether and that in itself was a hard thing for him to do. i'll be on later today and i'll chat more then. thank you so much.
Robin | | | | Joined: Feb 2012 Posts: 151 Senior Member (100+ posts) | Senior Member (100+ posts) Joined: Feb 2012 Posts: 151 | Funny-hearing-you-say-your-"Nurse-Ratchet-Hat".My-husband-often-referred-to-me-as-being-"Nurse-Ratchet".It-may-be-hard-some-days-to-come-on-so-strong-but-he'll-thank-you-in-the-end.My-husband-says-he-would-of-never-made-it-without-me-pushing-and-being-his-advocate-especially-with-his-"no-need-to-know-attitude".
Husband diagnosed Oct '11 Cancer of the vocal cord Nov '11 removed right vocal cord. Neck Dissection, cancer in one node, .2, very small & contained) Jan '12 Radiation and Cisplatin, 6 doses. June '12 & Dec '12 clear Pet scan. April '13 Celebrating 1 year cancer free since treatment ended.
| | | | Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 10,507 Likes: 7 Administrator, Director of Patient Support Services Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts) | Administrator, Director of Patient Support Services Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts) Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 10,507 Likes: 7 | Robin, please add a signature when you can. Its important to help us help you. If you need help with it, all the info you need is in the PM I sent you. Let me know if you need me to resend it.
Thanks! ChristineSCC 6/15/07 L chk & by L molar both Stag I, age44 2x cispltn-35 IMRT end 9/27/07 -65 lbs in 2 mo, no caregvr Clear PET 1/08 4/4/08 recur L chk Stag I surg 4/16/08 clr marg 215 HBO dives 3/09 teeth out, trismus 7/2/09 recur, Stg IV 8/24/09 trach, ND, mandiblctmy 3wks medicly inducd coma 2 mo xtended hospital stay, ICU & burn unit PICC line IV antibx 8 mo 10/4/10, 2/14/11 reconst surg OC 3x in 3 years very happy to be alive | | | | Joined: Jan 2014 Posts: 5 Member | Member Joined: Jan 2014 Posts: 5 | I understand about the nagging issue. My 31-year-old husband was diagnosed with SCC back in November 2013. We've been together 8 years, but the only thing I've ever nursed him back from was a bad flu. This is so much more difficult--trying to get him to swallow his meds, go to the dentist, eat, drink, and do his swallowing exercises. I do feel like a nag, and I feel guilty that I get so easily upset with him sometimes. It's hard when the other person is in pain or feeling bad and is cranky to you. Plus my husband is a doctor himself, so I love arguing with him about doing all of this! You're not alone in feeling like this and I hope he feels better soon. I know they appreciate us more than we could ever know.
Laura, Patient's Wife. He is 31 years old, non-smoker, light drinker, otherwise healthy. Stage I OCC of front right tongue. Partial right glossectomy: 12.9.13. Start radiation 1.27.14. Start cisplatin: 1.28.14. We will celebrate our third anniversary in the middle of all this. Hoping to learn more about side effects.
| | | | Joined: Dec 2010 Posts: 5,260 Likes: 3 "OCF Canuck" Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts) | "OCF Canuck" Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts) Joined: Dec 2010 Posts: 5,260 Likes: 3 | Too funny - drs and nurses make the worst patients.
Cheryl : Irritation - 2004 BX: 6/2008 : Inflam. BX: 12/10, DX: 12/10 : SCC - LS tongue well dif. T2N1M0. 2/11 hemigloss + recon. : PND - 40 nodes - 39 clear. 3/11 - 5/11 IMRT 33 + cis x2, PEG 3/28/11 - 5/19/11 3 head, 2 chest scans - clear(fingers crossed) HPV-, No smoke, drink, or drugs, Vegan
| | | | Joined: Apr 2013 Posts: 319 Platinum Member (300+ posts) | Platinum Member (300+ posts) Joined: Apr 2013 Posts: 319 | Tell him to be on his toes and monitor them (toes, and fingers too.) Many of the chemo agents (Cisplatin, carboplatin, taxol, taxetere, Xeloda (pill form of 5FU), to name just the ones I experienced) will take a toll on the nerves.
Any numbness tingling, or just plain unusual feelings in the toes or finger tips should be reported to your MO ASAP! That means the you are experiencing neuropathy (death of nerve cells) that can be permanent.
I've got a bad case of it in my toes because they only warned me about numbness or tingling, and that's not what I experienced, my warning (which I ignored, thinking it was bad fitting new shoes) was just a strangeness, sort of like I had a wrinkle or a twig in the bottom of my socks.
I got some in my fingers too, but caught it early and only have a small amount of numbness in my finger tips. Papers slip away if I don't watch it and concentrate on holding tight.
This neuropathy is what is happening when tinitus is experienced; the tiny hairs in the inner ear are being killed, and this is usually permanent. I personally have lost about 50 of my hearing, concentrated mostly in the upper registers. When I reported it, they changed chemo agents and life went on, but the loss stopped.
On the other hand, I've always seen these side-effects as just something of a distraction. Before I'd allow them to change chemo agents, I always asked if the switch would compromise the treatment and reduce the efficacy of the treatment; because if it would, I'd accept the neuropathy as the price of the best shot at survival, and well worth the price.
Good luck to you both!
My intro: http://oralcancersupport.org/forums/ubbt...3644#Post16364409/09 - Dx OC Stg IV 10/09 - Chemo/3 Cisplatin, 40 rad 11/09 - PET CLEAN 07/11 - Dx Stage IV C. (Liver) 06/12 - PET CLEAN 09/12 - PET Dist Met (Liver) 04/13 - PET CLEAN 06/13 - PET Dist Met (Liver + 1 lymph node) 10/13 - PET - Xeloda ineffective 11/13 - Liver packed w/ SIRI-Spheres 02/14 - PET - Siri-Spheres effective, 4cm tumor in lymph-node 03/15 - Begin 15 Rads 03/24 - Final Rad! Woot! 7/27/14 Bart passed away. RIP!
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