Hi my name is Jenny and I am Christys & Grandmas mom. My mother has oral cancer and Christy said I could get the support I needed from this site. Everything is moving so slowly with the tests. Biopsy was to be done in 24 to 48 hours and we are still waiting one week later. Moms cancer is spreading like wild fire and she gets weaker by the minute. I called the doctor today and asked if she could be admitted to the hospital and they said no. Have to wait for the biopsy. I am so mad I could just scream. Mom is 74 years old and lives on here own. Thank you for letting me vent.
Jenny

Hello Jenny,

My wife was born in Canada and over the years we have seen how well they handle cancer patients. It is definately frustrating. When the tests get delayed like this, I tried to call twice a day. Plus, it gave me an updated list of who's on duty, who knews something and who I didn't need to call for information.

You are your Mom's best advocate. Don't give up. We're praying for you, Christy and your mom.

David

Hi Jenny, welcome to the site. I have been following Christy's thread but not commented as other's have given her very good support and comments and I didn't think I had anything to add. Please feel free to vent here anytime. That is one of the major benefits of this site. Get it off your chest and feel better. We've all been there or been with a loved one who has been there and are here to support you and Christy and your mom. We are also liberal with our prayers and will have you all in ours.

Hi Jenny,

Welcome to the Oral Cancer Foundation. I'm sorry about all the delays in getting any concrete information in a timely matter. Please know you are welcome to ask anything you can think of about oral cancer, someone will reply.

Best Wishes, Danny Boy

Hello Jenny, so sorry that you have to face this. I too wish things would move faster for you all. Remember that the body deals with cancer something like an infection. It can make the body tired just because of the fight that is going on. Make sure she is drinking lots of fluids and eating as much quality food as she can. The treatments she faces are difficult but we have been there and done it.

Thank you David, Kirk, Daniel and Mark for your kind words. I called the lab again to day and the biopsy is still pending. Each day Mom gets worse, I just got home from seeing her and it has grown again over night. She has a new lump on the outside of here lip, she is so swollen you can hardly understand her, and she is so angry. She started doing real weird things yesterday and I am so afraid it might have spread to her brain, is there any hope if it has? I have cried a river of tears and the damn never seems to dry up. I went back to work this week and and we are so busy that I can try and forget how rotten life is for a little bit of each day. Thank you for your prayers and emails.
Jenny

Jenny,
You need to put some pressure on your Doctor. Do Not take no for an answer. If all else fails take her to Emergency and force them to deal with it that way. Some of our Medical Profession feel that we are getting our care for free so we can wait for as long as they feel we should. That is just plan rubbish. We pay their wages with our taxes. So make yourself heard, be forceful or just be a pain in their ass..........it works. I was told that it would take 2 to 3 weeks for my biopsy results. A few phone calls and a couple of "that is not acceptable" and I had my results in 1 day and was at the Head and Neck Clinic 2 days later.
Have you thought of going to another city?
David

I agree with DavidD. Time to up the ante. Bring her into emergency. She needs some relief, now. In the meantime let her doctor know that's where they can send the biopsy results. Stay Tough!