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Joined: Oct 2010 Posts: 5 | It have been very emotional last two months but Avi's fight was finally over last Monday, 30.11. I know in my mind that is the best for him as he has been spared any more sufferings but my heart will need time to accept and heal.
I have not been posting after he had his first CT which showed that the cancer had not disapaered. He got this news in end of October but I was very blessed that I could be with him then as we lived in different countries. He then went for a second opinion who confirmed the diagnosis. At that time he was utterly exhausted by the never ending hospital visits and more so by the piling up of bad news. By beginning of Nov he was informed that the cancer could not be cured only option would be aggressive chemo which definately would weaken him further and would need 3 month before any evaluation could be done on the effect. We disscussed the topic when I came over with the children so we could celebrate Dewali together. He decided against it and vowed to concentrate all his energy on positive thinking. He very well achived his goal.We had a wonderful week together, even though he lost his voice totally during this time and had to be hospitalized again because of a severe infection. I went back but promised to come again soon.
On Nov 23rd he celebrated his birthday which he helped to organize and saw many many of his friends. I felt sad not to be able to be there but found comfort in seeing him soon again. It was not going to happen as he passd quickly last Monday. I talked to him last on Sunday evening and finished with my ususal phrase "Did I tell you today?... I love you."
Against all doctor's predictions he managed to avoid tracheotomy and went before major pain and discomfort started. I find a lot of comfort in this.
My thoughts are with all of you either fighting or being family or friends of someone.
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Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 8,311 | So sorry but at least he avoided all the pain.
David
Age 58 at Dx, HPV16+ SCC, Stage IV BOT+2 nodes, non smoker, casual drinker, exercise nut, Cisplatin x 3 & concurrent IMRT x 35,(70 Gy), no surgery, no Peg, Tx at Moffitt over Aug 06. Jun 07, back to riding my bike 100 miles a wk. Now doing 12 Spin classes and 60 outdoor miles per wk. Nov 13 completed Hilly Century ride for Cancer, 104 miles, 1st Place in my age group. Apr 2014 & 15, Spun for 9 straight hrs to raise $$ for YMCA's Livestrong Program. Certified Spin Instructor Jun 2014.
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Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 10,507 Likes: 7 | Im sorry for your loss. May your memories of happier days help to ease your pain. It is a blessing that he is no longer in any discomfort.
ChristineSCC 6/15/07 L chk & by L molar both Stag I, age44 2x cispltn-35 IMRT end 9/27/07 -65 lbs in 2 mo, no caregvr Clear PET 1/08 4/4/08 recur L chk Stag I surg 4/16/08 clr marg 215 HBO dives 3/09 teeth out, trismus 7/2/09 recur, Stg IV 8/24/09 trach, ND, mandiblctmy 3wks medicly inducd coma 2 mo xtended hospital stay, ICU & burn unit PICC line IV antibx 8 mo 10/4/10, 2/14/11 reconst surg OC 3x in 3 years very happy to be alive  | | | | | Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 1,357 Likes: 5 "OCF Canuck" Patient Advocate (1000+ posts) | | "OCF Canuck" Patient Advocate (1000+ posts)
Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 1,357 Likes: 5 | Wow - everything happened so quickly I am sure it will take you time to realize that all of this was real. My Condolences to you and to all of his family on his passing.
Donna,69, SCC L Tongue T2N1MO Stg IV 4/04 w/partial gloss;32 radtx; T2N2M0 Stg IV; R tongue-2nd partial gloss w/graft 10/07; 30 radtx/2 cispl 2/08. 3rd Oral Cancer surgery 1/22 - Stage 1. 2022 surgery eliminated swallowing and bottom left jaw. Now a “Tubie for Life”.no food envy - Thank God! Surviving isn't easy!!!! .Proudly Canadian - YES, UNIVERSAL HEALTH CARE IS WONDERFUL! (Not perfect but definitely WONDERFUL)
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Joined: Dec 2010 Posts: 2 | well i have read ur post n feeling soo pain for u but my dear plzzz dont get tense everything gona be fine one day | | | | | Joined: Sep 2009 Posts: 701 Likes: 1 "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts) | | "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts)
Joined: Sep 2009 Posts: 701 Likes: 1 | I am so sorry that you lost your Avi. My condolences to you.
Anita (68)
CG to husband, Clark, 79,
DX SCC 11/07, T4N0Mx, PEG 1/08, RAD, post rad infection 3/08,
HBOT 40 dives, ORN, Surg 11/09 mandibulectomy w/fibular graft.
Plastic Surg 4/10, 12/10, 3/11, 10/11, 4/12, 10/12. All PETS clear,
PEG out 1/11. 6/11 non union jaw fracture
Fractured jaw w/surgery 7/14
Aspiration pneumonia 7/21, 10/22
PEG 7/21
Botox injections
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