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Joined: Jan 2009 Posts: 1,844 | "You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, 'I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.' "
-Eleanore Roosevelt
Young Frack, SCC T4N2M0, Cisplatin,35+ rads,ND, RT Mandiblectomy w fibular free flap, facial paralysis, "He who has a "why" to live can bear with almost any "how"." -Nietzche "WARNING" PG-13 due to Sarcasm & WAY too much attitude, interact at your own risk.
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Joined: Feb 2010 Posts: 55 | Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the little voice at the end of the day that says I'll try again tomorrow. ~Mary Anne Radmacher
Brother Dx oral cancer March 23. Invasive Squamous Cell Carcinoma: Mod Dif Anterior Floor of Mouth, Peridental Soft Tissue, Right Bony Margin. Lymph Nodes 0/56 Stage II,pT2,pN0 2.8 cm
I was Dx b/cancer 9/2007. IDC Stage2 Grade2 2.4 cm 0/8 Nodes ER+ PR+ Her-2 Rad 33 no chemo.
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Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 10,507 Likes: 7 | I like this topic. Its a motivational, positive post to help everyone remember why we are all here....to help each other.
ChristineSCC 6/15/07 L chk & by L molar both Stag I, age44 2x cispltn-35 IMRT end 9/27/07 -65 lbs in 2 mo, no caregvr Clear PET 1/08 4/4/08 recur L chk Stag I surg 4/16/08 clr marg 215 HBO dives 3/09 teeth out, trismus 7/2/09 recur, Stg IV 8/24/09 trach, ND, mandiblctmy 3wks medicly inducd coma 2 mo xtended hospital stay, ICU & burn unit PICC line IV antibx 8 mo 10/4/10, 2/14/11 reconst surg OC 3x in 3 years very happy to be alive  | | | | | Joined: Nov 2009 Posts: 396 Platinum Member (300+ posts) | | Platinum Member (300+ posts)
Joined: Nov 2009 Posts: 396 | The pessimist sees difficulty in every opportunity. The optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.
Winston Churchill
Teresa
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CG to ANDY. Nasopharyngeal Carcinoma (NPC)
T2N2cMxG4 stage 4. 43 @ dx 8/31/09
tx 9/21/09-11/06/09 cispatin/docetaxel/5-FU X3
PORT 9/9/09, PEG 12/07/09
35 IMRT-1/wk carbo 11/30/09-2/3/10
tx stopped due to complications
IMRT BOOST 3/08-3/12/10
PET 4/12/10 CLEAR!
PEG out 4/14/10
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Joined: Jan 2009 Posts: 1,844 | "It is only through labor and painful effort, by grim energy and resolute courage, that we move on to better things."
-Theodore Roosevelt
Love it guys, keep the great quotes coming!
Young Frack, SCC T4N2M0, Cisplatin,35+ rads,ND, RT Mandiblectomy w fibular free flap, facial paralysis, "He who has a "why" to live can bear with almost any "how"." -Nietzche "WARNING" PG-13 due to Sarcasm & WAY too much attitude, interact at your own risk.
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Joined: Jan 2009 Posts: 1,844 | "Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear, not absence of fear." -Mark Twain
One of my personal favorites
Young Frack, SCC T4N2M0, Cisplatin,35+ rads,ND, RT Mandiblectomy w fibular free flap, facial paralysis, "He who has a "why" to live can bear with almost any "how"." -Nietzche "WARNING" PG-13 due to Sarcasm & WAY too much attitude, interact at your own risk.
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Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 8,311 | "I think I can, I think I can, I KNOW I CAN, I KNOW I CAN."
The Little Red Train, circa 1950
David
Age 58 at Dx, HPV16+ SCC, Stage IV BOT+2 nodes, non smoker, casual drinker, exercise nut, Cisplatin x 3 & concurrent IMRT x 35,(70 Gy), no surgery, no Peg, Tx at Moffitt over Aug 06. Jun 07, back to riding my bike 100 miles a wk. Now doing 12 Spin classes and 60 outdoor miles per wk. Nov 13 completed Hilly Century ride for Cancer, 104 miles, 1st Place in my age group. Apr 2014 & 15, Spun for 9 straight hrs to raise $$ for YMCA's Livestrong Program. Certified Spin Instructor Jun 2014.
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Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 5,260 | I live my life without fear . I don't get controled but do the controling. By jim LOL
Since posting this. UPMC, Pittsburgh, Oct 2011 until Jan. I averaged about 2 to 3 surgeries a week there. w Can't have jaw made as bone is deteroriating steaily that is left in jaw. Mersa is to blame. Feeding tube . Had trach for 4mos. Got it out April.
--- Passed away 5/14/14, will be greatly missed by everyone here
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Joined: Mar 2008 Posts: 3,082 | David I remember the Little Engine that could, and let me tell you, no RED train was ever the little engine. Let's not rewrite history. You have the decade right for the most popular version (the 1954 version by Platt & Munk published The Little Engine That Could, with slightly revised language and new, more colorful illustrations by George and Doris Hauman. BUT THE LITTLE ENGINE THAT COULD HAS ALWAYS BEEN [/color]BLUE[color:#000099]not red. I dug up my beat up old copy to verify it, but here is a link to the Wikipedia page which has the cover in pristine condition Little BLUE engine that could I can't vouch for any of the other info in this article only the cover of the 1954 book. Still, a great quote and certainly more inspirational than the cynical one mentioned in Wiki footnotes: [quote]Shel Silverstein wrote a poem called "The Little Blue Engine" that referenced this story, except in the end the engine almost reached the top of the hill but then very quickly slid back down and crashed on the rocks below, and the poem ended with the memorable line "If the track is tough and the hill is rough, THINKING you can just ain't enough![/quote]" Charm
65 yr Old Frack
Stage IV BOT T3N2M0 HPV 16+
2007:72GY IMRT(40) 8 ERBITUX No PEG
2008:CANCER BACK Salvage Surgery
25GY-CyberKnife(5) 3 Carboplatin
Apaghia /G button
2012: CANCER BACK -left tonsilar fossa
40GY-CyberKnife(5) 3 Carboplatin
Passed away 4-29-13
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Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 8,311 | Maybe I was color blind as a kid? Ever think of THAT? There you go picking on me!!
I wonder why I remember that train as red?
David
Age 58 at Dx, HPV16+ SCC, Stage IV BOT+2 nodes, non smoker, casual drinker, exercise nut, Cisplatin x 3 & concurrent IMRT x 35,(70 Gy), no surgery, no Peg, Tx at Moffitt over Aug 06. Jun 07, back to riding my bike 100 miles a wk. Now doing 12 Spin classes and 60 outdoor miles per wk. Nov 13 completed Hilly Century ride for Cancer, 104 miles, 1st Place in my age group. Apr 2014 & 15, Spun for 9 straight hrs to raise $$ for YMCA's Livestrong Program. Certified Spin Instructor Jun 2014.
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Joined: Nov 2009 Posts: 396 | �Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.�
-Fulton Oursler
Teresa
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CG to ANDY. Nasopharyngeal Carcinoma (NPC)
T2N2cMxG4 stage 4. 43 @ dx 8/31/09
tx 9/21/09-11/06/09 cispatin/docetaxel/5-FU X3
PORT 9/9/09, PEG 12/07/09
35 IMRT-1/wk carbo 11/30/09-2/3/10
tx stopped due to complications
IMRT BOOST 3/08-3/12/10
PET 4/12/10 CLEAR!
PEG out 4/14/10
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Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 5,260 | LOL I just didn't want to burst the color bubble. I too knew it was blue. Hell, I was the conductor on it .
Since posting this. UPMC, Pittsburgh, Oct 2011 until Jan. I averaged about 2 to 3 surgeries a week there. w Can't have jaw made as bone is deteroriating steaily that is left in jaw. Mersa is to blame. Feeding tube . Had trach for 4mos. Got it out April.
--- Passed away 5/14/14, will be greatly missed by everyone here
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Joined: Jan 2009 Posts: 1,844 | David, Charm,
Another quote by Mark Twain for you two. "Get your facts first, then distort them as you please."
On Topic:
"The time to take counsel of your fears is before you make an important battle decision. That's the time to listen to every fear you can imagine! When you have collected all the facts and fears and made your decision, turn off all your fears and go ahead!"
George S. Patton
Young Frack, SCC T4N2M0, Cisplatin,35+ rads,ND, RT Mandiblectomy w fibular free flap, facial paralysis, "He who has a "why" to live can bear with almost any "how"." -Nietzche "WARNING" PG-13 due to Sarcasm & WAY too much attitude, interact at your own risk.
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Joined: May 2002 Posts: 2,152 | That's Strange. I agree with David. I would swear that the engine was RED in my copy of the book also. It was one of those golden books. I can see the pictures in my mind now and it's red.
Take care,
Eileen
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Aug 1997 unknown primary, Stage III
mets to 1 lymph node in neck; rt ND, 36 XRT rad
Aug 2001 tiny tumor on larynx, Stage I total laryngectomy; left ND
June 5, 2010 dx early stage breast cancer
June 9, 2011 SCC 1.5 cm hypo pharynx, 70% P-16 positive, no mets, Stage I
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Joined: Mar 2008 Posts: 3,082 | Eileen
That's why I posted the Wiki link to the exact cover showing the blue engine. The Little Red Train is a very popular children's book series from England but not from the 50s. The only thing besides color blindness may be if the train in the movie "Dumbo" was red where Disney inserted the "I think I can" refrain.
Eric
Back on point with this post/thread"
One of my favorites from years ago
[quote]"I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain."
--- Frank Herbert, Dune - Bene Gesserit Litany Against Fear
[/quote]
65 yr Old Frack
Stage IV BOT T3N2M0 HPV 16+
2007:72GY IMRT(40) 8 ERBITUX No PEG
2008:CANCER BACK Salvage Surgery
25GY-CyberKnife(5) 3 Carboplatin
Apaghia /G button
2012: CANCER BACK -left tonsilar fossa
40GY-CyberKnife(5) 3 Carboplatin
Passed away 4-29-13
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Joined: May 2009 Posts: 1,412 | "The absence of fear is not courage; the absences of fear is some kind of brain damage. Courage is the capacity to go ahead in spite of the fear, o rin spite of the pain." M. Scott Peck
Angelia
31 at Dx.
DX: 4/30/09, 10/21/09 SCC on floor of mouth,
T1NOMO, T2N1M0
TX: 39 IMRT, 8 cisplatin 11/30/09
PET/CT: 11/03/09: Lymph node involvement
PEG/PORT: 11/09
TX end: 02/01/10
PET Scan: 04/05/10 clear
PEG Out: 06/21/10
Biopsy: 12/23/10: fibrosis
HBO: 01/04/11 - ORN
Baby girl born 11-30-12
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Joined: Apr 2005 Posts: 2,219 | David,
Maybe you were mad and you were seeing RED.
It's OK, I forgive you.
Jerry
Retired Dentist, 59 years old at diagnosis. SCC of the left lateral border of the tongue (Stage I). Partial glossectomy and 30 nodes removed, 4/6/05. Nodes all clear. No chemo no radiation 18 year survivor.
"Whatever doesn't kill me, makes me stronger"
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Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 5,260 | Angelia, I can't believe you are calling me brain dead vecause I have no fear. LOL But you could be right about the brain damage. I wasn't even worried going into the second aortic aneurysm repair and still don't fear it knowing I have the bottom half og it that the Dr was afraid to touch for fear of killing me, I even execise 2 times a day and do 100 reps, each time. I make sure I don't put too much strain of the lower end of that thing tho so it doesn;t blow.
Since posting this. UPMC, Pittsburgh, Oct 2011 until Jan. I averaged about 2 to 3 surgeries a week there. w Can't have jaw made as bone is deteroriating steaily that is left in jaw. Mersa is to blame. Feeding tube . Had trach for 4mos. Got it out April.
--- Passed away 5/14/14, will be greatly missed by everyone here
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Joined: Jan 2009 Posts: 1,844 | "Flowers grow out of dark moments."
-Corita Kent
Young Frack, SCC T4N2M0, Cisplatin,35+ rads,ND, RT Mandiblectomy w fibular free flap, facial paralysis, "He who has a "why" to live can bear with almost any "how"." -Nietzche "WARNING" PG-13 due to Sarcasm & WAY too much attitude, interact at your own risk.
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Joined: Mar 2008 Posts: 3,082 | Hmmn time to get out my college poetry books:
"What are fears but voices airy?
Whispering harm where harm is not.
And deluding the unwary
Till the fatal bolt is shot!"
---- Wordsworth: Inscriptions Supposed to be Found in and near a Hermit's Cell - 1818 verse two
Charm
65 yr Old Frack
Stage IV BOT T3N2M0 HPV 16+
2007:72GY IMRT(40) 8 ERBITUX No PEG
2008:CANCER BACK Salvage Surgery
25GY-CyberKnife(5) 3 Carboplatin
Apaghia /G button
2012: CANCER BACK -left tonsilar fossa
40GY-CyberKnife(5) 3 Carboplatin
Passed away 4-29-13
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Joined: May 2009 Posts: 1,412 | Oh Jim, I read that quote in a book I was reading. I thought it was very interesting. Never thought of courage like that. No, you are not brain damaged. You are too funny. By the way I did not call you brain damaged, it was Mr. Scott Peck who did. I was just repeating it.
Angelia
31 at Dx.
DX: 4/30/09, 10/21/09 SCC on floor of mouth,
T1NOMO, T2N1M0
TX: 39 IMRT, 8 cisplatin 11/30/09
PET/CT: 11/03/09: Lymph node involvement
PEG/PORT: 11/09
TX end: 02/01/10
PET Scan: 04/05/10 clear
PEG Out: 06/21/10
Biopsy: 12/23/10: fibrosis
HBO: 01/04/11 - ORN
Baby girl born 11-30-12
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Joined: Mar 2008 Posts: 3,082 | I actually had a class in college called: Mental Hygiene, which covered both old psychology books and modern novels. Dug up on Google the cite to one of my old notebook entries for today
[quote]The most drastic and usually the more effective remedy for fear is direct action.
~ William H. Burnham, The Normal Mind: An Introduction to Mental Hygiene and the Hygiene of School Instruction (1924).[/quote]
Charm
Last edited by Charm2017; 03-04-2010 01:01 PM. Reason: took cold shower
65 yr Old Frack
Stage IV BOT T3N2M0 HPV 16+
2007:72GY IMRT(40) 8 ERBITUX No PEG
2008:CANCER BACK Salvage Surgery
25GY-CyberKnife(5) 3 Carboplatin
Apaghia /G button
2012: CANCER BACK -left tonsilar fossa
40GY-CyberKnife(5) 3 Carboplatin
Passed away 4-29-13
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Joined: Jan 2009 Posts: 1,844 | That was awesome charm, I love it.
"There will be a time when you believe everything is finished. Yet that will be the beginning."
Louis L'amour
Young Frack, SCC T4N2M0, Cisplatin,35+ rads,ND, RT Mandiblectomy w fibular free flap, facial paralysis, "He who has a "why" to live can bear with almost any "how"." -Nietzche "WARNING" PG-13 due to Sarcasm & WAY too much attitude, interact at your own risk.
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Joined: Apr 2005 Posts: 2,219 | In one of my courses in dental school (or was that mental school), they tried some mental hygiene on one of my classmates. They tried squirting water through his head from his right ear to his left. It didn't work so they just flunked him out of school.
Jerry
Retired Dentist, 59 years old at diagnosis. SCC of the left lateral border of the tongue (Stage I). Partial glossectomy and 30 nodes removed, 4/6/05. Nodes all clear. No chemo no radiation 18 year survivor.
"Whatever doesn't kill me, makes me stronger"
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Joined: Jan 2009 Posts: 1,844 | No quote today...flu's knocked me out for a bit.
Young Frack, SCC T4N2M0, Cisplatin,35+ rads,ND, RT Mandiblectomy w fibular free flap, facial paralysis, "He who has a "why" to live can bear with almost any "how"." -Nietzche "WARNING" PG-13 due to Sarcasm & WAY too much attitude, interact at your own risk.
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Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 5,260 | Geez Eric,,If it's out there you seem to get it. Go easy man we need you here.
Since posting this. UPMC, Pittsburgh, Oct 2011 until Jan. I averaged about 2 to 3 surgeries a week there. w Can't have jaw made as bone is deteroriating steaily that is left in jaw. Mersa is to blame. Feeding tube . Had trach for 4mos. Got it out April.
--- Passed away 5/14/14, will be greatly missed by everyone here
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Joined: Mar 2008 Posts: 3,082 | Eric
Hoping you feel better today. So you can take time to recuperate, here is a quote for today on fear:
[quote]With the unknown, one is confronted with danger, discomfort, and care; the first instinct is to abolish these painful states. First principle: any explanation is better than none. ... The causal instinct is thus conditional upon, and excited by, the feeling of fear. The "why?" shall, if at all possible, not give the cause for its own sake so much as for a particular kind of cause -- a cause that is comforting, liberating, and relieving.
~ Friedrich Wilhelm Nietzsche, The Twilight of the Idols (1888). The Four Great Errors[/quote]
It obliquely ties in with your signature. Feel better soon.
charm
65 yr Old Frack
Stage IV BOT T3N2M0 HPV 16+
2007:72GY IMRT(40) 8 ERBITUX No PEG
2008:CANCER BACK Salvage Surgery
25GY-CyberKnife(5) 3 Carboplatin
Apaghia /G button
2012: CANCER BACK -left tonsilar fossa
40GY-CyberKnife(5) 3 Carboplatin
Passed away 4-29-13
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Joined: Mar 2008 Posts: 3,082 | Okay, Third Sunday of Lent (unlike the 3rd Sunday of Advent no change of color in vestments until next Sunday) today so a "sermon" type quote on handling fear:
[quote]Be not afraid of life. Believe that life is worth living, and your belief will help create the fact.
~ William James, from The Will to Believe and Other Essays in Popular Philosophy (1897). Is Life Worth Living?
[/quote]
Get better Soon Eric . BTW, other posters are welcome to add their favorite fear quotes. We only need one a day to fulfill Eric's title
Charm
65 yr Old Frack
Stage IV BOT T3N2M0 HPV 16+
2007:72GY IMRT(40) 8 ERBITUX No PEG
2008:CANCER BACK Salvage Surgery
25GY-CyberKnife(5) 3 Carboplatin
Apaghia /G button
2012: CANCER BACK -left tonsilar fossa
40GY-CyberKnife(5) 3 Carboplatin
Passed away 4-29-13
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Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 5,260 | How true this one is Charm.
Since posting this. UPMC, Pittsburgh, Oct 2011 until Jan. I averaged about 2 to 3 surgeries a week there. w Can't have jaw made as bone is deteroriating steaily that is left in jaw. Mersa is to blame. Feeding tube . Had trach for 4mos. Got it out April.
--- Passed away 5/14/14, will be greatly missed by everyone here
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Joined: Jan 2009 Posts: 1,844 | Thanks Charm for picking up my slack, you are awesome my friend. This stuff just wants to hold on. While I'm waiting for my compazine to kick in I thought this was funny.
"When I told my doctor I couldn't afford an operation, he offered to touch-up my X-rays" -Henry Youngman
laughter truly is the best way to conquer fear.
Young Frack, SCC T4N2M0, Cisplatin,35+ rads,ND, RT Mandiblectomy w fibular free flap, facial paralysis, "He who has a "why" to live can bear with almost any "how"." -Nietzche "WARNING" PG-13 due to Sarcasm & WAY too much attitude, interact at your own risk.
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Joined: Jan 2009 Posts: 1,844 | "Men are not prisoners of fate, but only prisoners of their own minds." -FDR
Young Frack, SCC T4N2M0, Cisplatin,35+ rads,ND, RT Mandiblectomy w fibular free flap, facial paralysis, "He who has a "why" to live can bear with almost any "how"." -Nietzche "WARNING" PG-13 due to Sarcasm & WAY too much attitude, interact at your own risk.
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Tongue Cancer T2 N0 M0 /
Total Glossectomy Due to Location of Tumor
Finished all treatments May 25 2007
Surviving!!!
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Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 5,260 | It is better to go when you gotta go than to go and find out you already went.. LOL Guess who?
Since posting this. UPMC, Pittsburgh, Oct 2011 until Jan. I averaged about 2 to 3 surgeries a week there. w Can't have jaw made as bone is deteroriating steaily that is left in jaw. Mersa is to blame. Feeding tube . Had trach for 4mos. Got it out April.
--- Passed away 5/14/14, will be greatly missed by everyone here
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Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 5,260 | As long as you aren't dumber in the head than a mule is in the ass!!!! Same guy.
Since posting this. UPMC, Pittsburgh, Oct 2011 until Jan. I averaged about 2 to 3 surgeries a week there. w Can't have jaw made as bone is deteroriating steaily that is left in jaw. Mersa is to blame. Feeding tube . Had trach for 4mos. Got it out April.
--- Passed away 5/14/14, will be greatly missed by everyone here
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Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 5,260 | If they can put your brain in a thimble and it rattles like a BB in a boxcar, you have a problem. Him again. LOL
Since posting this. UPMC, Pittsburgh, Oct 2011 until Jan. I averaged about 2 to 3 surgeries a week there. w Can't have jaw made as bone is deteroriating steaily that is left in jaw. Mersa is to blame. Feeding tube . Had trach for 4mos. Got it out April.
--- Passed away 5/14/14, will be greatly missed by everyone here
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Joined: Jan 2009 Posts: 1,844 | "My theory has always been, that if we are to dream, the flatteries of hope are as cheap, and pleasanter, than the gloom of despair." -Thomas Jefferson
I got that in before the day ended! Yay me!
Young Frack, SCC T4N2M0, Cisplatin,35+ rads,ND, RT Mandiblectomy w fibular free flap, facial paralysis, "He who has a "why" to live can bear with almost any "how"." -Nietzche "WARNING" PG-13 due to Sarcasm & WAY too much attitude, interact at your own risk.
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Joined: Jan 2009 Posts: 1,844 | "It is better to conquer yourself than to win a thousand battles. Then the victory is yours. It cannot be taken from you, not by angels or by demons, heaven or hell." -Budha
One for "today" as I'm there already I guess!
Thanks Jim for the quotes, you make me smile my friend!
Young Frack, SCC T4N2M0, Cisplatin,35+ rads,ND, RT Mandiblectomy w fibular free flap, facial paralysis, "He who has a "why" to live can bear with almost any "how"." -Nietzche "WARNING" PG-13 due to Sarcasm & WAY too much attitude, interact at your own risk.
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Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 5,260 | I was trying to Eric and maybe cheer up some of the others. LOL I have many sayings and the mouth to say them. I like yours better tho Eric.
Since posting this. UPMC, Pittsburgh, Oct 2011 until Jan. I averaged about 2 to 3 surgeries a week there. w Can't have jaw made as bone is deteroriating steaily that is left in jaw. Mersa is to blame. Feeding tube . Had trach for 4mos. Got it out April.
--- Passed away 5/14/14, will be greatly missed by everyone here
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Joined: Mar 2002 Posts: 4,912 Likes: 52 | These are all really great, and most inspirational. I tend to remember ones that are of a slightly different ilk ......
Light moves faster than sound. That's why some people appear bright until you hear them speak.
If you can't fix it with a hammer,
you can damn sure teach it a lesson!
And my particular favorite when I want someone to keep their distance from me:
I hear voices.... And they don't like you.
Brian, stage 4 oral cancer survivor. OCF Founder and Director. The first responsibility of a leader is to define reality. The last is to say thank you. In between, the leader is a servant.
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Since posting this. UPMC, Pittsburgh, Oct 2011 until Jan. I averaged about 2 to 3 surgeries a week there. w Can't have jaw made as bone is deteroriating steaily that is left in jaw. Mersa is to blame. Feeding tube . Had trach for 4mos. Got it out April.
--- Passed away 5/14/14, will be greatly missed by everyone here
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Joined: Jan 2009 Posts: 1,844 | I love those Brian!
"To conquer fear is the beginning of wisdom." -Bertrand Russel
Young Frack, SCC T4N2M0, Cisplatin,35+ rads,ND, RT Mandiblectomy w fibular free flap, facial paralysis, "He who has a "why" to live can bear with almost any "how"." -Nietzche "WARNING" PG-13 due to Sarcasm & WAY too much attitude, interact at your own risk.
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Death is not the biggest fear we have; our biggest fear is taking the risk to be alive -- the risk to be alive and express what we really are.---Don Miguel Ruiz
Brother Dx oral cancer March 23. Invasive Squamous Cell Carcinoma: Mod Dif Anterior Floor of Mouth, Peridental Soft Tissue, Right Bony Margin. Lymph Nodes 0/56 Stage II,pT2,pN0 2.8 cm
I was Dx b/cancer 9/2007. IDC Stage2 Grade2 2.4 cm 0/8 Nodes ER+ PR+ Her-2 Rad 33 no chemo.
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| I pulled a lot of good quotes from a website on Chuck Palahniuk, author of Fight Club, I find a few of these to be very motivating.
-�The unreal is more powerful than the real, because nothing is as perfect as you can imagine it. because its only intangible ideas, concepts, beliefs, fantasies that last. stone crumbles. wood rots. people, well, they die. but things as fragile as a thought, a dream, a legend, they can go on and on.�
-"Protest is now just a backdrop for a Diesel clothing ad in a slick fashion magazine. My goal is to create a metaphor that changes our reality by charming people into considering their world in a different way. It's time � for me, at least � to be clever and seduce people by entertaining them. I'll never be heard if I'm always ranting and griping."
-�We all die. The goal isn't to live forever, the goal is to create something that will.�
haha and this one is funny, and very true:
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Preserve and protect whatever is giving you confidence. Dismantle and rebuild whatever you need to change.
46 yrs:
Apr 07-SCC 80% entire tongue removed,T4N1M0
Neck/D,Jaw Split, Trache 2 ops,PEG 3.5yrs
30 x rad,6 x Cisplatin,
30 x HBO
Apr'08- flap Recon + ORN Mandibulectomy
(hip bone to reconstruct jaw)
Oct'08 1 Plate out-jaw
Mar'09 Debulk flap
Sep'09/Jan&Nov'10/Feb&Jun'11/Jan&Jul'12/Oct'13/April'14-More surgery
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Joined: Jan 2009 Posts: 1,844 | "I went to a bookstore and asked the saleswoman, "Where's the self-help section?" She said if she told me, it would defeat the purpose."
&
"If you can't beat them, arrange to have them beaten."
-George Carlin
Young Frack, SCC T4N2M0, Cisplatin,35+ rads,ND, RT Mandiblectomy w fibular free flap, facial paralysis, "He who has a "why" to live can bear with almost any "how"." -Nietzche "WARNING" PG-13 due to Sarcasm & WAY too much attitude, interact at your own risk.
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Joined: Jan 2009 Posts: 1,844 | On the road today and tomorrow for a follow up with my surgeon...so I'll quote myself...."F" fear and "F" cancer, I don't have time for either.
Have a great day...and put a little swagger in your step, attitude is everything
Young Frack, SCC T4N2M0, Cisplatin,35+ rads,ND, RT Mandiblectomy w fibular free flap, facial paralysis, "He who has a "why" to live can bear with almost any "how"." -Nietzche "WARNING" PG-13 due to Sarcasm & WAY too much attitude, interact at your own risk.
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Joined: Jan 2009 Posts: 1,844 | Finally back home and getting "caught up".
"Carry the battle to them. Don't let them bring it to you. Put them on the defensive and don't ever apologize for anything." Harry S. Truman
Young Frack, SCC T4N2M0, Cisplatin,35+ rads,ND, RT Mandiblectomy w fibular free flap, facial paralysis, "He who has a "why" to live can bear with almost any "how"." -Nietzche "WARNING" PG-13 due to Sarcasm & WAY too much attitude, interact at your own risk.
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Joined: Mar 2002 Posts: 4,912 Likes: 52 | Eric - since you are quoting President Truman.... check out the photos on my facebook page.
Brian, stage 4 oral cancer survivor. OCF Founder and Director. The first responsibility of a leader is to define reality. The last is to say thank you. In between, the leader is a servant.
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Young Frack, SCC T4N2M0, Cisplatin,35+ rads,ND, RT Mandiblectomy w fibular free flap, facial paralysis, "He who has a "why" to live can bear with almost any "how"." -Nietzche "WARNING" PG-13 due to Sarcasm & WAY too much attitude, interact at your own risk.
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Joined: Jan 2009 Posts: 1,844 | Usually I like to mix up funny light hearted quotes with more meaty inspirational ones just to keep things from getting to monotonous...but I'll skip that today because these quotes really jumped out at me.
"With realization of one's own potential and self-confidence in one's ability, one can build a better world."
"It is very important to generate a good attitude, a good heart, as much as possible. From this, happiness in both the short term and the long term for both yourself and others will come."
and
"I find hope in the darkest of days, and focus in the brightest."
-Dalai Lama
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Young Frack, SCC T4N2M0, Cisplatin,35+ rads,ND, RT Mandiblectomy w fibular free flap, facial paralysis, "He who has a "why" to live can bear with almost any "how"." -Nietzche "WARNING" PG-13 due to Sarcasm & WAY too much attitude, interact at your own risk.
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"Sometimes you have to shovel S#!T to get to the good stuff". - Tony the bricklayer.
46 yrs:
Apr 07-SCC 80% entire tongue removed,T4N1M0
Neck/D,Jaw Split, Trache 2 ops,PEG 3.5yrs
30 x rad,6 x Cisplatin,
30 x HBO
Apr'08- flap Recon + ORN Mandibulectomy
(hip bone to reconstruct jaw)
Oct'08 1 Plate out-jaw
Mar'09 Debulk flap
Sep'09/Jan&Nov'10/Feb&Jun'11/Jan&Jul'12/Oct'13/April'14-More surgery
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Joined: Aug 2007 Posts: 1,301 | Not really a quote however....
On the February 27, 2002, the world lost one of its most influential comedians.
Spike Milligan first came to fame when he teamed up with Peter Sellers, Harry Secombe and Michael Bentine to form the highly esteemed Goon Show.
He has "I told you I was ill" engraved on his tombstone at Winchelsea, East Sussex.
It is, however, written in Gaelic.
History Leukoplakia bx 8/2006 SCC floor mouth T3N0M0- Verrucous Carcinoma.
14 hour 0p SCC-Right ND/excision/marginal mandibulectomy 9/2006, 4 teeth removed, flap from wrist, trach-ng 6 days- no chemo/rad.
6 ops and debulking (flap/tongue join) + bx's 2006-2012.
bx Jan 2012 Hyperkeratosis-Epithelial Dysplasia
24cm GIST tumour removed 8/2013. Indefinite Oral Chemo.
1/31/16 passed away peacefully surrounded by family
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Joined: Mar 2008 Posts: 3,082 | Gabe I'm old enough to remember Spike Milligan fondly and we need to add one of his quotes to this thread: [quote]I'm not afraid of dying I just don't want to be there when it happens. [/quote] As for the tombstone, the Chichester Diocese refused to allow the english epitaph but a compromise was reached with the Irish translation, "D�irt m� leat go raibh m� breoite", and additionally in English, "Love, light, peace" according to this BBC report Mulligan gets Last Laugh on Grave
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65 yr Old Frack
Stage IV BOT T3N2M0 HPV 16+
2007:72GY IMRT(40) 8 ERBITUX No PEG
2008:CANCER BACK Salvage Surgery
25GY-CyberKnife(5) 3 Carboplatin
Apaghia /G button
2012: CANCER BACK -left tonsilar fossa
40GY-CyberKnife(5) 3 Carboplatin
Passed away 4-29-13
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Joined: Jan 2009 Posts: 1,844 | Charm, That quote is originally Woody Allens and there is some confusion on that as newspapers often quoted Spike as saying it. Here is an interesting article that touches on it: http://jim-murdoch.blogspot.com/2009/10/memories-of-spike-part-one.htmlWhat I find kind of spooky is I just read that quote a few days ago, thought it very funny but decided to post the Dalai Lama quotes instead. The quote was credited to Woody Allen on the site I was reading so it confused me when I read your post and decided to do a little digging. Funny stuff. Spike was a huge influence on Monty Python, who I grew up on, and they openly attribute their take on comedy to him...which is the only reason I'd heard of him actually. I'm a huge British Comedy buff as I love MP, Red Dwarf and avidly watch the BBC. So with that I'm going to post a Red Dwarf quote today: "The time for talking is over. Now call it extreme if you like, but I propose we hit it hard, and we hit it fast, with a major, and I mean major, leaflet campaign. " -Rimmer
Young Frack, SCC T4N2M0, Cisplatin,35+ rads,ND, RT Mandiblectomy w fibular free flap, facial paralysis, "He who has a "why" to live can bear with almost any "how"." -Nietzche "WARNING" PG-13 due to Sarcasm & WAY too much attitude, interact at your own risk.
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Joined: Mar 2008 Posts: 3,082 | Eric
Good research catch. Interesting article. Reminds me of the way that Benjamin Franklin's great quote about wine being proof that God loves us being universally misquoted as being about beer.
charm
65 yr Old Frack
Stage IV BOT T3N2M0 HPV 16+
2007:72GY IMRT(40) 8 ERBITUX No PEG
2008:CANCER BACK Salvage Surgery
25GY-CyberKnife(5) 3 Carboplatin
Apaghia /G button
2012: CANCER BACK -left tonsilar fossa
40GY-CyberKnife(5) 3 Carboplatin
Passed away 4-29-13
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Joined: Jan 2009 Posts: 1,844 | Thanks Charm, as I said, I thought it spooky to see that quote...great minds think alike I guess!
Here are a few Mark Twain quotes I love...
"The fear of death follows from the fear of life. A man who lives fully is prepared to die at any time."
"Against the assault of laughter nothing can stand."
&
"It's not the size of the dog in the fight, it's the size of the fight in the dog"
Young Frack, SCC T4N2M0, Cisplatin,35+ rads,ND, RT Mandiblectomy w fibular free flap, facial paralysis, "He who has a "why" to live can bear with almost any "how"." -Nietzche "WARNING" PG-13 due to Sarcasm & WAY too much attitude, interact at your own risk.
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Joined: Aug 2007 Posts: 1,301 | Glad of the controversy about who said what Charm and Eric  Spike Milligian was a frequent visitor to Australia and Woy Woy is just over an hour north of Sydney. �Spike Milligan's parents moved to Woy Woy in the early 50's. Spike would often visit to have a break from fame and do some writing. He died in February 2002, aged 83 years old, and will also be remembered for his life long battle with depression.� And now I have borrowed some quotes that appealed from the signature of 2 of our OCF members.... "I will surely die one day, but I am not going to do it each day until then." "Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyse you; they're supposed to help you discover who you are."
History Leukoplakia bx 8/2006 SCC floor mouth T3N0M0- Verrucous Carcinoma.
14 hour 0p SCC-Right ND/excision/marginal mandibulectomy 9/2006, 4 teeth removed, flap from wrist, trach-ng 6 days- no chemo/rad.
6 ops and debulking (flap/tongue join) + bx's 2006-2012.
bx Jan 2012 Hyperkeratosis-Epithelial Dysplasia
24cm GIST tumour removed 8/2013. Indefinite Oral Chemo.
1/31/16 passed away peacefully surrounded by family
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Joined: Jan 2009 Posts: 1,844 | Wow Gabe...those are great I love them!
Young Frack, SCC T4N2M0, Cisplatin,35+ rads,ND, RT Mandiblectomy w fibular free flap, facial paralysis, "He who has a "why" to live can bear with almost any "how"." -Nietzche "WARNING" PG-13 due to Sarcasm & WAY too much attitude, interact at your own risk.
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Joined: Jan 2009 Posts: 1,844 | Charm, Franklin was often misquoted. The other one famously misquoted is "A penny saved is a penny earned." When he actually said "A penny saved is two pence dear; a pin a day's a groat a year."
Franklin is my hero, flawed and a womanizer...but oddly cool. I read his autobiography every year and always find something new and insightful.
Young Frack, SCC T4N2M0, Cisplatin,35+ rads,ND, RT Mandiblectomy w fibular free flap, facial paralysis, "He who has a "why" to live can bear with almost any "how"." -Nietzche "WARNING" PG-13 due to Sarcasm & WAY too much attitude, interact at your own risk.
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Joined: Jan 2009 Posts: 1,844 | "If at first you don't succeed, you'll get a lot of free advice from folks who didn't succeed either." unkown.
This made me laugh and where it really doesn't deal with fear I thought I'd share.
Young Frack, SCC T4N2M0, Cisplatin,35+ rads,ND, RT Mandiblectomy w fibular free flap, facial paralysis, "He who has a "why" to live can bear with almost any "how"." -Nietzche "WARNING" PG-13 due to Sarcasm & WAY too much attitude, interact at your own risk.
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Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 10,507 Likes: 7 | I found one under a new person's profile Michele71....
"People are like stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in their true beauty is revealed only if there is light from within."
~Elisabeth K�bler-Ross~
ChristineSCC 6/15/07 L chk & by L molar both Stag I, age44 2x cispltn-35 IMRT end 9/27/07 -65 lbs in 2 mo, no caregvr Clear PET 1/08 4/4/08 recur L chk Stag I surg 4/16/08 clr marg 215 HBO dives 3/09 teeth out, trismus 7/2/09 recur, Stg IV 8/24/09 trach, ND, mandiblctmy 3wks medicly inducd coma 2 mo xtended hospital stay, ICU & burn unit PICC line IV antibx 8 mo 10/4/10, 2/14/11 reconst surg OC 3x in 3 years very happy to be alive | | | | | Joined: Aug 2007 Posts: 1,301 "OCF Down Under" Patient Advocate (1000+ posts) | | "OCF Down Under" Patient Advocate (1000+ posts)
Joined: Aug 2007 Posts: 1,301 | I saw and liked that one to Christine...maybe we should start a new thread on the Friends Forum  ?
History Leukoplakia bx 8/2006 SCC floor mouth T3N0M0- Verrucous Carcinoma.
14 hour 0p SCC-Right ND/excision/marginal mandibulectomy 9/2006, 4 teeth removed, flap from wrist, trach-ng 6 days- no chemo/rad.
6 ops and debulking (flap/tongue join) + bx's 2006-2012.
bx Jan 2012 Hyperkeratosis-Epithelial Dysplasia
24cm GIST tumour removed 8/2013. Indefinite Oral Chemo.
1/31/16 passed away peacefully surrounded by family
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Joined: Mar 2002 Posts: 4,912 Likes: 52 | Her other quote most commonly repeated is:
"It's only when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on earth - and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up, we will then begin to live each day to the fullest, as if it was the only one we had."
Given these two quotes, who knows what the author is best known for......
Brian, stage 4 oral cancer survivor. OCF Founder and Director. The first responsibility of a leader is to define reality. The last is to say thank you. In between, the leader is a servant.
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Joined: Jan 2009 Posts: 1,844 | What are the 5 stages of grief for Double Jeopardy Alex! Also known as the Kubler-Ross Model which is origninally outliined in Elisabeth Kubler-Ross' book On Death and Dying published in 1969. Available at Amazon.com, please follow the Oral Cancer Foundation's link to Amazon for all purchases of this book to ensure that OCF recieves a contribution from Amazon!  (special thanks to Google for my superior insight and seemingly endless intelligence)
Young Frack, SCC T4N2M0, Cisplatin,35+ rads,ND, RT Mandiblectomy w fibular free flap, facial paralysis, "He who has a "why" to live can bear with almost any "how"." -Nietzche "WARNING" PG-13 due to Sarcasm & WAY too much attitude, interact at your own risk.
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Joined: Mar 2010 Posts: 21 | Hello--Yes, that is one of my favorite quotes (Even before I was diagnosed with cancer)--I've kind of been lurking since the day before yesterday, but I guess it's time to go over to new members and introduce myself. Michele
SCC, R Lateral tongue, T1N0M0, Diag: 3/15/10
38 yrs old at diag HPV Neg, Non Smoker Non Drinker
4/12/10 Partial Glossectomy, No Rads or Chemo
7/15/10 excision biopsy L mid posterior tongue - NEGATIVE
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Joined: Sep 2009 Posts: 618 | Courage is fear holding on a minute longer.
George S. Patton
Kelly
Male
48, SCC (Soft Palet) Rt.,
Stage 1, T3n0m0,
Dx, 8-09, Start IMRT 35 9-2-09 end 10-21-09
04-20-10 NED
8-11 recurrence, node rt. neck N2b
10-11 33 IMRT w/chemo wkly
3-12-12 PET - residual cancer
4-12 5 treatments with Cyberknife & Erbitux
6-19-12 Pet scan CLEAR
12-3-12 PET - CLEAR
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Joined: Mar 2010 Posts: 21 | �Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, "I will try again tomorrow.�
~Mary Anne Radmacher~
SCC, R Lateral tongue, T1N0M0, Diag: 3/15/10
38 yrs old at diag HPV Neg, Non Smoker Non Drinker
4/12/10 Partial Glossectomy, No Rads or Chemo
7/15/10 excision biopsy L mid posterior tongue - NEGATIVE
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Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 10,507 Likes: 7 | Sorry Michele71 if I 'outed' you before you were ready to become visiable. I liked your quote on your signature.
Thats a good topic for our friends catagory .... trivia questions.
Its nice sometimes to be able to laugh and not focus on the terrible realities and physical limitations of having cancer.
ChristineSCC 6/15/07 L chk & by L molar both Stag I, age44 2x cispltn-35 IMRT end 9/27/07 -65 lbs in 2 mo, no caregvr Clear PET 1/08 4/4/08 recur L chk Stag I surg 4/16/08 clr marg 215 HBO dives 3/09 teeth out, trismus 7/2/09 recur, Stg IV 8/24/09 trach, ND, mandiblctmy 3wks medicly inducd coma 2 mo xtended hospital stay, ICU & burn unit PICC line IV antibx 8 mo 10/4/10, 2/14/11 reconst surg OC 3x in 3 years very happy to be alive | | | | | Joined: Mar 2010 Posts: 21 Member | | Member
Joined: Mar 2010 Posts: 21 | Nah, Christine, Don't worry about it, You didn't out me--I was going to introduce myself yesterday and then got distracted. (my husband makes fun of me and calls it ooohhhh.... shiny....I have the same attention span as my ferrets) It's typically not in my nature to hang out and not make myself known so it was bound to happen soon anyway. lol
I agree, laughing makes me feel better. I'm new to the cancer thing, but I know that I've learned during my years with MS that if I'm already feeling crappy physically, being miserable just makes me feel worse.
Be well,
Michele
SCC, R Lateral tongue, T1N0M0, Diag: 3/15/10
38 yrs old at diag HPV Neg, Non Smoker Non Drinker
4/12/10 Partial Glossectomy, No Rads or Chemo
7/15/10 excision biopsy L mid posterior tongue - NEGATIVE
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Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 1,357 Likes: 5 | �There are four ways you can handle fear. You can go over it, under it, or around it. But if you are ever to put fear behind you, you must walk straight through it. Once you put fear behind you, leave it there.� Donna A. Favors
Donna,69, SCC L Tongue T2N1MO Stg IV 4/04 w/partial gloss;32 radtx; T2N2M0 Stg IV; R tongue-2nd partial gloss w/graft 10/07; 30 radtx/2 cispl 2/08. 3rd Oral Cancer surgery 1/22 - Stage 1. 2022 surgery eliminated swallowing and bottom left jaw. Now a “Tubie for Life”.no food envy - Thank God! Surviving isn't easy!!!! .Proudly Canadian - YES, UNIVERSAL HEALTH CARE IS WONDERFUL! (Not perfect but definitely WONDERFUL)
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Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 8,311 | You want fear, run for city council!
David
Age 58 at Dx, HPV16+ SCC, Stage IV BOT+2 nodes, non smoker, casual drinker, exercise nut, Cisplatin x 3 & concurrent IMRT x 35,(70 Gy), no surgery, no Peg, Tx at Moffitt over Aug 06. Jun 07, back to riding my bike 100 miles a wk. Now doing 12 Spin classes and 60 outdoor miles per wk. Nov 13 completed Hilly Century ride for Cancer, 104 miles, 1st Place in my age group. Apr 2014 & 15, Spun for 9 straight hrs to raise $$ for YMCA's Livestrong Program. Certified Spin Instructor Jun 2014.
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Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 1,357 Likes: 5 | I must not fear.
Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path.
Where the fear has gone there will be nothing.
Only I will remain.
Frank Herbert
Donna,69, SCC L Tongue T2N1MO Stg IV 4/04 w/partial gloss;32 radtx; T2N2M0 Stg IV; R tongue-2nd partial gloss w/graft 10/07; 30 radtx/2 cispl 2/08. 3rd Oral Cancer surgery 1/22 - Stage 1. 2022 surgery eliminated swallowing and bottom left jaw. Now a “Tubie for Life”.no food envy - Thank God! Surviving isn't easy!!!! .Proudly Canadian - YES, UNIVERSAL HEALTH CARE IS WONDERFUL! (Not perfect but definitely WONDERFUL)
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Joined: Mar 2008 Posts: 3,082 | Donna
While imitation is the sincerest form of flattery, I did post this very same quote on page two of this very same thread along with the specific citation: Frank Herbert, Dune - Bene Gesserit Litany Against Fear
Guess great minds think alike
Charm
65 yr Old Frack
Stage IV BOT T3N2M0 HPV 16+
2007:72GY IMRT(40) 8 ERBITUX No PEG
2008:CANCER BACK Salvage Surgery
25GY-CyberKnife(5) 3 Carboplatin
Apaghia /G button
2012: CANCER BACK -left tonsilar fossa
40GY-CyberKnife(5) 3 Carboplatin
Passed away 4-29-13
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Joined: Jan 2009 Posts: 1,844 | You know David, I'm actually going to be running for city council later this year. My best friend and business partner is our town's mayor and needs help so I'll have to use my local celebrity to lend a hand.
We actually seem to always get into the same mess as each other...first it was becoming pres and vp of our chamber of commerce, then into business together..now a trip into local politics...next THE SENATE! Where we'll probably try to warp existing political alliances against each other for our own political gain, to establish an empire bent on universal domination with the power of the Dark Side!!!
Wow...maybe I should lay off the Star Wars for a bit...and possibly the caffiene.
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Young Frack, SCC T4N2M0, Cisplatin,35+ rads,ND, RT Mandiblectomy w fibular free flap, facial paralysis, "He who has a "why" to live can bear with almost any "how"." -Nietzche "WARNING" PG-13 due to Sarcasm & WAY too much attitude, interact at your own risk.
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Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 1,357 Likes: 5 | There are so many of us here dealing with fear, I love this thread because it perhaps provides that one bit of encouragement or insight that a person needs at that particular moment.
Next time I'll check before I post a quote - great pick Charm!!
Donna
Donna,69, SCC L Tongue T2N1MO Stg IV 4/04 w/partial gloss;32 radtx; T2N2M0 Stg IV; R tongue-2nd partial gloss w/graft 10/07; 30 radtx/2 cispl 2/08. 3rd Oral Cancer surgery 1/22 - Stage 1. 2022 surgery eliminated swallowing and bottom left jaw. Now a “Tubie for Life”.no food envy - Thank God! Surviving isn't easy!!!! .Proudly Canadian - YES, UNIVERSAL HEALTH CARE IS WONDERFUL! (Not perfect but definitely WONDERFUL)
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Joined: Jan 2009 Posts: 1,844 | "He who is not everyday conquering some fear has not learned the secret of life."
Ralph Waldo Emerson
I got so wrapped up in my monologue I almost forgot to post a quote!
Young Frack, SCC T4N2M0, Cisplatin,35+ rads,ND, RT Mandiblectomy w fibular free flap, facial paralysis, "He who has a "why" to live can bear with almost any "how"." -Nietzche "WARNING" PG-13 due to Sarcasm & WAY too much attitude, interact at your own risk.
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Joined: Jan 2009 Posts: 1,844 | "Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood." -Madam Marie Curie
Young Frack, SCC T4N2M0, Cisplatin,35+ rads,ND, RT Mandiblectomy w fibular free flap, facial paralysis, "He who has a "why" to live can bear with almost any "how"." -Nietzche "WARNING" PG-13 due to Sarcasm & WAY too much attitude, interact at your own risk.
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Joined: Jan 2009 Posts: 1,844 | "Even death is not to be feared by one who has lived wisely." Buddha
This quote actually speaks to me. 2 years ago when I was handed my diagnosis, I wasn't devastated or afraid, just prepared if it was my time. I looked back at the life I had lived to that point and felt good about what I'd accomplished and who I was...no regrets. Don't get me wrong, I'm glad I still have a pulse and am moving forward with my life but if it's my time the only thing I'd regret is not seeing my boys become men. I take comfort in having the knowledge that they are set to launch and have a great platform to do so though.
Hope everyone has a great day!
Young Frack, SCC T4N2M0, Cisplatin,35+ rads,ND, RT Mandiblectomy w fibular free flap, facial paralysis, "He who has a "why" to live can bear with almost any "how"." -Nietzche "WARNING" PG-13 due to Sarcasm & WAY too much attitude, interact at your own risk.
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Joined: Mar 2010 Posts: 21 | "Serenity is not freedom from the storm but peace within the storm."
~Unknown~
SCC, R Lateral tongue, T1N0M0, Diag: 3/15/10
38 yrs old at diag HPV Neg, Non Smoker Non Drinker
4/12/10 Partial Glossectomy, No Rads or Chemo
7/15/10 excision biopsy L mid posterior tongue - NEGATIVE
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Diagnosed May 2002 with Stage IV tongue cancer, two lymph nodes positive. Surgery to remove 1/2 tongue, neck dissection, 35 radiation treatments. 11/2007, diagnosed with cancer of soft palate, surgery 12/14/07, jaw split. 3/24/10, cancer on tongue behind flap, need petscan, surgery scheduled 4/16/10
---update passed away 8-27-11---
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Joined: Jan 2009 Posts: 1,844 | "I am not afraid of tomorrow, for I have seen yesterday and I love today." -William Allen White
Young Frack, SCC T4N2M0, Cisplatin,35+ rads,ND, RT Mandiblectomy w fibular free flap, facial paralysis, "He who has a "why" to live can bear with almost any "how"." -Nietzche "WARNING" PG-13 due to Sarcasm & WAY too much attitude, interact at your own risk.
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Joined: Jun 2008 Posts: 475 | This is an awesome quote Eric, I will have to borrow this one!!
Susan Lauria - OCF Director of Events - Always looking for volunteers to help spread the word about early detection! Contact me if you can help!
*Brother passed away from tongue cancer in 2006 at age 47, was co-caregiver, he was non-smoker/casual drinker
LETS MAKE ORAL CANCER HISTORY!
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Joined: Aug 2007 Posts: 1,301 | Love it too Eric and would like to add this one..
"A friend should be a master at guessing and keeping still."
- Friedrich Nietzsche
History Leukoplakia bx 8/2006 SCC floor mouth T3N0M0- Verrucous Carcinoma.
14 hour 0p SCC-Right ND/excision/marginal mandibulectomy 9/2006, 4 teeth removed, flap from wrist, trach-ng 6 days- no chemo/rad.
6 ops and debulking (flap/tongue join) + bx's 2006-2012.
bx Jan 2012 Hyperkeratosis-Epithelial Dysplasia
24cm GIST tumour removed 8/2013. Indefinite Oral Chemo.
1/31/16 passed away peacefully surrounded by family
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Joined: May 2008 Posts: 551 | Love this one, Eric. Thank you.
Stage IV SCC lt lateral tongue, surgery 5/19/08 (partial gloss/upper neck dissection left side/radial free flap reconstruction) IMRT w/weekly Cisplatin & Erbitux 6/30/08, PEG 1 6/12/08 - out 7/14 (in abdominal wall, not stomach), PEG 2 7/23/08 - out 11/20/08, Tx done 8/18/08
Second SCC tumor, Stage 1, rt mobile tongue, removed 10/18/2016, right neck dissection 12/9/2016
Third SCC tumor, diagnosed, 4/19/2108, rt submandibular mass, HPV-, IMRT w/ weekly Cisplatin, 5/9 - 6/25/2018, PEG 3 5/31/2018
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Joined: Mar 2008 Posts: 3,082 | This saying seems so appropriate to us here at OCF
[quote]Sometimes even to live is an act of courage. ~Lucius Annaeus Seneca, Letters to Lucilius
[/quote]
Charm
65 yr Old Frack
Stage IV BOT T3N2M0 HPV 16+
2007:72GY IMRT(40) 8 ERBITUX No PEG
2008:CANCER BACK Salvage Surgery
25GY-CyberKnife(5) 3 Carboplatin
Apaghia /G button
2012: CANCER BACK -left tonsilar fossa
40GY-CyberKnife(5) 3 Carboplatin
Passed away 4-29-13
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Excellent quote!!!!!
So true for those of us living with daily limitations from oral cancer!!!
ChristineSCC 6/15/07 L chk & by L molar both Stag I, age44 2x cispltn-35 IMRT end 9/27/07 -65 lbs in 2 mo, no caregvr Clear PET 1/08 4/4/08 recur L chk Stag I surg 4/16/08 clr marg 215 HBO dives 3/09 teeth out, trismus 7/2/09 recur, Stg IV 8/24/09 trach, ND, mandiblctmy 3wks medicly inducd coma 2 mo xtended hospital stay, ICU & burn unit PICC line IV antibx 8 mo 10/4/10, 2/14/11 reconst surg OC 3x in 3 years very happy to be alive | | | | | Joined: Jan 2009 Posts: 1,844 Patient Advocate (1000+ posts) | | OP Patient Advocate (1000+ posts)
Joined: Jan 2009 Posts: 1,844 | �Fear is a habit; so is self-pity, defeat, anxiety, despair, hopelessness and resignation. You can eliminate all of these negative habits with two simple resolves: I can!! and I will!!� unknown.
Great quote Charm...very true as well.
Young Frack, SCC T4N2M0, Cisplatin,35+ rads,ND, RT Mandiblectomy w fibular free flap, facial paralysis, "He who has a "why" to live can bear with almost any "how"." -Nietzche "WARNING" PG-13 due to Sarcasm & WAY too much attitude, interact at your own risk.
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Joined: Feb 2007 Posts: 790 | The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams. Eleanor Roosevelt
Tongue Cancer T2 N0 M0 /
Total Glossectomy Due to Location of Tumor
Finished all treatments May 25 2007
Surviving!!!
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Joined: Jan 2009 Posts: 1,844 | "Confront the dark parts of yourself, and work to banish them with illumination and forgiveness. Your willingness to wrestle with your demons will cause your angels to sing. Use the pain as fuel, as a reminder of your strength."
August Wilson
Young Frack, SCC T4N2M0, Cisplatin,35+ rads,ND, RT Mandiblectomy w fibular free flap, facial paralysis, "He who has a "why" to live can bear with almost any "how"." -Nietzche "WARNING" PG-13 due to Sarcasm & WAY too much attitude, interact at your own risk.
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Joined: Mar 2008 Posts: 3,082 | bumping this post back up with a new quote
[quote]Coping with an illness is an art that must be relearned every single day. There is no magic. Coping evolves - Richard M Cohen[/quote]
charm
65 yr Old Frack
Stage IV BOT T3N2M0 HPV 16+
2007:72GY IMRT(40) 8 ERBITUX No PEG
2008:CANCER BACK Salvage Surgery
25GY-CyberKnife(5) 3 Carboplatin
Apaghia /G button
2012: CANCER BACK -left tonsilar fossa
40GY-CyberKnife(5) 3 Carboplatin
Passed away 4-29-13
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Joined: Mar 2008 Posts: 3,082 | Excerpt from post apocalypse sequel novel
[quote]Fred:I've never been through anything like this
Pete:There's one school of thought that says worring doesn't change anything so why put yourself through it
Fred: Which school did you attend
Pete: Hard Knocks. Worry's about control. It makes you cover your bases. What have you forgotten. What haven't you considered. Sometimes you come up with something. So I say go ahead and stress over it if you need to[/quote]
-Elegy Beach by Steven Boyett
65 yr Old Frack
Stage IV BOT T3N2M0 HPV 16+
2007:72GY IMRT(40) 8 ERBITUX No PEG
2008:CANCER BACK Salvage Surgery
25GY-CyberKnife(5) 3 Carboplatin
Apaghia /G button
2012: CANCER BACK -left tonsilar fossa
40GY-CyberKnife(5) 3 Carboplatin
Passed away 4-29-13
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| I was watching that movie, "Smoke" last night with Harvey Keitel and at one point in the movie he shows his buddy his entire life photo project. There were thousands of photos, all taken at the same exact spot at the same exact time, everyday. His buddy just flips through the albums at a fast pace not stopping to look at the details. Harvey says, "If you don't slow down you're never going to get it". His buddy says, "Well what do you mean? They're all the same photo?" Then Harvey says this quote (which I love):
"They're all the same but each one is different from the other one. You've got your bright
mornings and your dark mornings. You've got
your summer light and your autumn light. You've
got your weekdays and your weekends. You've
got your people in overcoats and galoshes,
and you've got your people in shorts and
T-shirts. Sometimes the same people,
sometimes different ones. And sometimes the
different ones become the same, and the same
ones disappear. The earth revolves around the
sun, and every day the light from the sun hits
the earth at a different angle."
Everyday is a new day and different from the last.
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Joined: Aug 2007 Posts: 1,301 | I think I get it Megan Will check my video shop to see if they have a copy. Sounds like a movie that I would enjoy.
History Leukoplakia bx 8/2006 SCC floor mouth T3N0M0- Verrucous Carcinoma.
14 hour 0p SCC-Right ND/excision/marginal mandibulectomy 9/2006, 4 teeth removed, flap from wrist, trach-ng 6 days- no chemo/rad.
6 ops and debulking (flap/tongue join) + bx's 2006-2012.
bx Jan 2012 Hyperkeratosis-Epithelial Dysplasia
24cm GIST tumour removed 8/2013. Indefinite Oral Chemo.
1/31/16 passed away peacefully surrounded by family
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Joined: Mar 2010 Posts: 21 | If this is a repeat, I apologize, I just like the concept of this thread and thought I would revive it...
"Promise me you'll always remember: You're braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think." Christopher Robin to Pooh�
barbpl A. A. Milne
SCC, R Lateral tongue, T1N0M0, Diag: 3/15/10
38 yrs old at diag HPV Neg, Non Smoker Non Drinker
4/12/10 Partial Glossectomy, No Rads or Chemo
7/15/10 excision biopsy L mid posterior tongue - NEGATIVE
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Joined: Mar 2010 Posts: 21 | �Anyone can give up, it's the easiest thing in the world to do. But to hold it together when everyone else would understand if you fell apart, that's true strength.�
SCC, R Lateral tongue, T1N0M0, Diag: 3/15/10
38 yrs old at diag HPV Neg, Non Smoker Non Drinker
4/12/10 Partial Glossectomy, No Rads or Chemo
7/15/10 excision biopsy L mid posterior tongue - NEGATIVE
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Joined: Mar 2010 Posts: 21 | �Confront the dark parts of yourself, and work to banish them with illumination and forgiveness. Your willingness to wrestle with your demons will cause your angels to sing. Use the pain as fuel, as a reminder of your strength.�
August Wilson
SCC, R Lateral tongue, T1N0M0, Diag: 3/15/10
38 yrs old at diag HPV Neg, Non Smoker Non Drinker
4/12/10 Partial Glossectomy, No Rads or Chemo
7/15/10 excision biopsy L mid posterior tongue - NEGATIVE
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Joined: Nov 2009 Posts: 493 | My husband gave me a plaque with this quote on it for Chistmas. It is hanging in the bedroom.
Female, nonsmoker, 70, diag. 5/09 after tongue biopsy: stage IV. Left hemi-gloss. and left selec. neck disec. 30 lymph nodes removed May 20. Over 7 weeks daily rads. with three chemo. PEG removed 12/4/09 Am eating mostly soft foods. Back to work 11/09 Retired 4/1/11. 7 clear scans! Port out 9/11. 2/13. It's back: base of tongue, very invasive
surgery involving lifestyle changes. 2/14: Now speaking w/Passey-Muir valve. Considering a swallow study. Grateful to be alive.
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Joined: Aug 2005 Posts: 158 | Though the future be hidden from me, like a candle in a darkened room, it cannot and will not be found, until a step is taken or a hand is put forth, by me, today.
No love, no friendship can cross the path of our destiny without leaving some mark on it forever. - Francois Mauriac
Thank you for leaving your mark.
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Joined: Jan 2009 Posts: 1,844 | ‎'Each morning when I open my eyes I say to myself: I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy today. I can choose which it shall be. Yesterday is dead, tomorrow hasn't arrived yet. I have just one day, today, and I'm going to be happy in it.' Groucho Marx
Young Frack, SCC T4N2M0, Cisplatin,35+ rads,ND, RT Mandiblectomy w fibular free flap, facial paralysis, "He who has a "why" to live can bear with almost any "how"." -Nietzche "WARNING" PG-13 due to Sarcasm & WAY too much attitude, interact at your own risk.
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Joined: Dec 2006 Posts: 147 | Thank you for these quotes - today is a day that is just pain stricken for me without my beloved, Jim. I couldn't get out of bed & go to work. I thought I was doing the best that I could, but after reading these quotes, I see that I'm not doing the best that I can. I come here often to read as it brings me solice. I miss my Jim so much but glad to see that there are still those of you keeping up the fight - it gives me hope that this horrid disease will not take any more from us than what it already has.
Paula
Caregiver to Husband 50 yrs.young-non smoker/non-drinker; Stage IV - all treatments stopped August 2009
Lost the battle November 23, 2010
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Joined: Jan 2009 Posts: 1,844 | Paula
Where Jim cannot be with you physically, he lives on in your heart through the sweet memories of the time you were blessed to have with each other. I believe that Jim is with you now and would want you to go out and live the rest of your time on this earth to the fullest. That's what I would want my sweet girl to do.
Love you Paula...keep your chin up girl and know we are here for you
Young Frack, SCC T4N2M0, Cisplatin,35+ rads,ND, RT Mandiblectomy w fibular free flap, facial paralysis, "He who has a "why" to live can bear with almost any "how"." -Nietzche "WARNING" PG-13 due to Sarcasm & WAY too much attitude, interact at your own risk.
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Joined: Jan 2009 Posts: 1,844 | Life is not meant to be easy, my child; but take courage -- it can be delightful.
George Bernard Shaw
Young Frack, SCC T4N2M0, Cisplatin,35+ rads,ND, RT Mandiblectomy w fibular free flap, facial paralysis, "He who has a "why" to live can bear with almost any "how"." -Nietzche "WARNING" PG-13 due to Sarcasm & WAY too much attitude, interact at your own risk.
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Joined: Jul 2010 Posts: 531 | C'mon Paula, pull out of the funk! Would Jim want you lying around and feeling bad by his passing or would he want you to be up and running and LIVING your life with his lovely memories held deep in your heart and mind of all the wonderful times you had together? You can't do this to yourself, it's not your fault so don't punish yourself. Do something for yourself and feel good, if you need to cry, cry, but do not stop living! If you can't do it alone go talk to somebody, if you are involved in a church talk to the preist, pastor, clergyman. If not find a grief counselor or group to help you thru this for you are not alone in this world unfortunately with facing the death of a loved one thru cancer. So get out of bed, take a shower/cry if needed, put on some makeup and of course clothes, hehe and get the heck out of the house and live! Go have a cocktail with friend and relax! Smell the air, look at the sky, watch the sun set or sun rise or both because YOU are still alive! Now smile! Don't you feel better?
CG to Ron
Out of Pain 4/3/13
4/12-lung and under chin growth no treatment
1/13/12 lung biopsy
6/11 recur 6/30 resection #2 Clear margins
Clear 12/10
Surg 5/13/10 neck dis/nodes part gloss/flap R thigh all teeth out
RAD 30 8/10
DX 4/2/10 "Oral Cavity" T3NOMO
12/28/07 Non Hodg Lymph remission 7/08
passed away 4.3.15, RIP Ron, you are greatly missed
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Joined: Dec 2006 Posts: 147 | I am still going - putting one foot in front of the other; I'm taking our Challenger - "The Beast" to Galveston this weekend just to get away. While its going to be cold, at least I can be in a hotel and look at the Gulf, get a massage and have a few cocktails. I know Jim wants me to keep going and I'm trying. Sue gave me a great website for new widows - it's a great site and I'm glad to know that what I'm feeling isn't any different from others. Thanks for staying with me on this...I feel like there's no place for me here anymore, but can't help but keep coming back.
Caregiver to Husband 50 yrs.young-non smoker/non-drinker; Stage IV - all treatments stopped August 2009
Lost the battle November 23, 2010
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Joined: Jul 2010 Posts: 531 | keep coming back!! And we will keep kickin you in the butt to keep on going! have a great mini vacation sure wish i could go along, i need a break...soon! weather is probably warmer than it is up here!
CG to Ron
Out of Pain 4/3/13
4/12-lung and under chin growth no treatment
1/13/12 lung biopsy
6/11 recur 6/30 resection #2 Clear margins
Clear 12/10
Surg 5/13/10 neck dis/nodes part gloss/flap R thigh all teeth out
RAD 30 8/10
DX 4/2/10 "Oral Cavity" T3NOMO
12/28/07 Non Hodg Lymph remission 7/08
passed away 4.3.15, RIP Ron, you are greatly missed
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Joined: Aug 2005 Posts: 307 | Paula,
There will ALWAYS be a place for you here, so please keep coming back. We all care about you a lot and want to make sure you're doing OK inspite of the circumstances.
Hugs,
Shelley
Caregiver to husband Ron. Throat Cancer. Finished 35 radiation treatments on 11/21/04. 8/2/11 small lesion on lower gum, laser Procedure to remove. 3/6/12 Doc. removed another lesion on outside of his neck. Did a skin graft from his chest to replace the skin on his neck. Went to Heaven on 6/24/12.
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Joined: Aug 2007 Posts: 1,301 | Continue to come back to the family whenever you need us Paula.
I remember your earlier posts and had to go back to when you were deciding about the beast under the topic What to Do? What to Do? I found it and see you had picked it up in April. Some of your trips were better than others however it is great to see you are taking that drive for a get away weekend.
May you continue taking and hopefully getting enjoyment from your mini holidays.
Gabriele
History Leukoplakia bx 8/2006 SCC floor mouth T3N0M0- Verrucous Carcinoma.
14 hour 0p SCC-Right ND/excision/marginal mandibulectomy 9/2006, 4 teeth removed, flap from wrist, trach-ng 6 days- no chemo/rad.
6 ops and debulking (flap/tongue join) + bx's 2006-2012.
bx Jan 2012 Hyperkeratosis-Epithelial Dysplasia
24cm GIST tumour removed 8/2013. Indefinite Oral Chemo.
1/31/16 passed away peacefully surrounded by family
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Joined: May 2008 Posts: 357 | Good for you, Paula!
There is no right or wrong way to grieve. We each grieve in our own way and in our own time.
When my husband died, it was months before I didn't feel disoriented & a few years before I felt true joy again, but it did happen.
Working through that profound grief was hard work - the hardest I ever did. I emerged changed, but also richer in understanding that life, indeed, is for the living.
Good luck. Enjoy Galveston.
Marlene
Marginal mandibulectomy 6/17/08 resulted in DX of Stage I SCC - gingiva (3 mm) right mandible, buccal side. Clear margins. Occasional social drinker. Smoked last cigarette in 1979. Clear pet: 12/08; 7/20/09. Yay!
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Joined: Jan 2009 Posts: 1,844 | "You can conquer almost any fear if you will only make up your mind to do so. For remember, fear doesn't exist anywhere except in the mind."
Dale Carnegie
Young Frack, SCC T4N2M0, Cisplatin,35+ rads,ND, RT Mandiblectomy w fibular free flap, facial paralysis, "He who has a "why" to live can bear with almost any "how"." -Nietzche "WARNING" PG-13 due to Sarcasm & WAY too much attitude, interact at your own risk.
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Joined: Feb 2005 Posts: 118 Likes: 1 | "... the other side of every fear is a freedom."
Marilyn Ferguson in The Aquarian Conspiracy
Be well. Zenda
12/04 SCC Tonsil, Stage IV T3N2BM0. Mod RND, resect right oropharynx, free-flap, resect right tongue base. Erbitux,Docetaxel,RT X 33. 6/08 Mets lung, hilar lymph node:Carboplatin, Docetaxel. 2010 2nd clinical trial:lung clear, node stable. ORN,trismus,dysphagia. 8-10/2012 cryoablation,brachytherapy,cyberknife to lymph node. 12/12 NED. 6/13 Mets RLL lung: 8/13 cyberknife. 11/13 NED.
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Joined: Mar 2008 Posts: 3,082 | I have tweaked a quote in a book review on aging that I like to be relevant to OCF. It is sometimes enough to acknowledge the fear and accept it as the way our world is now so it does not paralyze nor terrify.
[quote]Don't feel that surviving Cancer successfully requires you to be a serene, above-it-all, smiley-faced optimist. If what you really are is a "discontented work in progress," go for it. And, if you can do so, find some pleasure in the world as it actually is, without counting on the imminent triumphs of science to allow you to be skydiving in your 90s. [/quote]
Thoughts to myself as I get my second year post surgery MRI tomorrow. Results in about 10 days (they have to go thru my doctor first)
Charm
Charm
65 yr Old Frack
Stage IV BOT T3N2M0 HPV 16+
2007:72GY IMRT(40) 8 ERBITUX No PEG
2008:CANCER BACK Salvage Surgery
25GY-CyberKnife(5) 3 Carboplatin
Apaghia /G button
2012: CANCER BACK -left tonsilar fossa
40GY-CyberKnife(5) 3 Carboplatin
Passed away 4-29-13
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Joined: Nov 2009 Posts: 493 | I love the phrase "a discontented work in progress." I can relate to that!
Female, nonsmoker, 70, diag. 5/09 after tongue biopsy: stage IV. Left hemi-gloss. and left selec. neck disec. 30 lymph nodes removed May 20. Over 7 weeks daily rads. with three chemo. PEG removed 12/4/09 Am eating mostly soft foods. Back to work 11/09 Retired 4/1/11. 7 clear scans! Port out 9/11. 2/13. It's back: base of tongue, very invasive
surgery involving lifestyle changes. 2/14: Now speaking w/Passey-Muir valve. Considering a swallow study. Grateful to be alive.
| | | | | Joined: Dec 2010 Posts: 99 Supporting Member (50+ posts) | | Supporting Member (50+ posts)
Joined: Dec 2010 Posts: 99 | Wishing you all the best tomorrow! Thanks for the quote - as a caregiver - fear of what the future will bring has been the hardest for me to get a handle on, living happily in the present as everyone says we should is hard due to the major changes in our lives we are adjusting to.
CG 2 Emmett,7/09 DX SCC rt tongue. T2N1M0, 1 node, marg neg.4/10 PET/CT clear, 9/10 C back. 10/10 Rad hemi, 2 tmrs mod diff. resec flr of mth. Flap 4 nodes/w/ext cap. 11/10 Peg, CX3 HD, 30 rad. 1/31 & 3/21 6/11/11 - PET/CT "activity" 9/11-all Clear. 12/11 peg out. 2/15 still all clear! 9/14 Prostate cancer treated with pencil beam proton therapy, best radiation experience. Keep it in mind as a treatment option for all tumors that can be seen including head and neck.
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