Eileen and others.
When my husb was first diagnoised with Alzheimer's I joined a site much like this one. The things I learned there & the freindships I made have been invaluable. Now I find myself on this site for support with my husband's cancer.
I found on the Alz board much the same that I am finding here. For all both issues are so terriable I find I am very lucky in that I have a wonderful step daughter and a son & daughter who are always willing to listen to me and ready to help out so I can get out of the house for a break.
My husband is so easy to take care of which makes things so much easier for me. Others like you have these other issues to deal with on top of what is already a tramatic situation.
My very best to you & your family.